One of the primary goals of healing work is to develop the Healthy Adult.
Specifically, developing the Healthy Adult is an important piece of developing earned secure attachment.
The Healthy Adult is confident, balanced, in touch with their emotions, and able to relate well with others. Everyone has a Healthy Adult to varying degrees of development.
The Healthy Adult can be understood as having two major groupings of positive traits:
1. Strength based traits
The strength based traits are comprised of (drawing from Jeffrey Young’s ‘Healthy Adult Mode’, Dan Brown’s ‘Best Self’, and The Third School of Cognitive Therapy’s metacognitive skills):
- Healthy self-definition (knowing who you are and what you are about)
- A well developed sense of agency (internal locus of control)
- Well developed ability to explore
- Healthy self esteem
- Metacognitive skills
- Stress tolerance and emotional self-regulation skills