- Secure attachment is caused by good enough parenting in terms of getting the following (The first five in the list draw from Dan Brown & David Elliott’s 2016 book “Attachment Disturbances in Adults”):
- safety & protection
- attunement, feeling seen and know
- soothing, physical affection
- expressed delight
- support for explorations
- unconditional/reliable love (no having to worry that love is conditional)
- guidance & boundary setting
- problem-solving within the zone of proximal development
- sense of belonging (largely a result of entrainment and synchronization of mental and physical states)
