These are guided meditations that guide you through the experience of the four major attachment styles as a mind state.
The “Mistrust & Abuse” schema is nearly always quite strong in these cases, and so it’s important to prioritise it.
- If doing a confrontation-scene, focus on protection and safety.
- The Perfect Nurturers really back you up, give you power and moral authority
The material in the “Working through Disorganized Attachment” course is very relevant, in particular the guided meditations.
The conference-room technique can also be very helpful for working with this type of material.
Exploration is the ability to go after what is meaningful to us. We rely on our exploration ability to understand what we really want, plan how to get it, and follow through. However for those of us with insecure attachment our exploration skills are often underdeveloped.
John Bowlby, the founder of Attachment Theory, proposed that a “good-enough” caregiver would provide a stable base for the child. When care is readily available and of good quality, the child is able to confidently explore away from the secure base.