The goal of this meditation course is to improve our capacity to respond to difficult situations from a place of emotional security, and we will be exploring how to use Buddhist heart practices to deal with afflictive emotions.
- 5 Week Course: One live 90 minute class per week
- Live online sessions: The live sessions will be hosted on Zoom. An email with the zoom links will be sent to you after you have registered.
- Q&A: There will be opportunity to ask questions during the Q&A section.
Attendance & Recordings
- Partial attendance is fine - however you get best results if you attend all sessions.
- Late Starts: You can join even after it has started.
- View at your own pace: The event will be recorded and sent out to registered participants for viewing on your own schedule.
This course will run twice in order to be accessible to people in different time zones. The content is exactly the same. You will get the access details for both after signing up.
There will be one live 90 minute class per week.
What to Expect
Guided meditation will be the main focus of the program. There will be ample opportunity to ask questions and share whatever you feel comfortable with. There will be no pressure to do so; passive participation is perfectly fine.
Classes will be divided between theory and practice to help students gain a deep understanding of the material, but the main focus will be on meditation. As such, all participants are asked to make a commitment to meditate 30 minutes per day, as part of the course.
The lecture content *will be* on metacognitive skills, emotional regulation skills, and Buddhist meditative practices which produce qualities of mind that are valued across traditions.
Much of the psychological material will be drawn from Schema Therapy, Bruce Ecker, and the work of David P. Bernstein.
You will also be encouraged to join a peer practice group where you can meditate together and discuss the content.
This program is suitable for beginners in meditation and healing work.
The usual outline of a class will have a short meditation to arrive, followed by new lecture content, the main guided meditation for the class, with time for any questions at the end.
- An introduction to mentalization and metacognitive skills
- Compassion and Tong Len meditation as a way to cultivate it
- Differentiating sincere, secure concern for others (true compassion) and insecure, nervous concern
- Overview of attachment-related schemas (negative thought patterns)
- Applying compassion to schemas
- Investigating schema modes (negative emotional states and coping strategies)
- Applying compassion to schema modes
- Sympathetic joy and how meditating with it can cause our positive qualities to grow.
- Investigating the similarities between the “healthy adult mode”, Bernstein’s list of 48 strength, and the Buddhist paramitas (positive qualities: ethics, forbearance, generosity, concentration, wisdom, energy)
- Understanding unconditional love, equanimity, and wisdom.
- Seeing how equanimity can help us to not be blown around by the difficulties of life.
There will be time for Q&A and spot coaching.
We will be doing deep work. For that reason please feel free to take a break at any point.
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Who is this for?
This program is for those of us who...
- Are looking to improve our psychological health, especially those who have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results.
- Are interested in learning a new way to apply heart practices.
- Want support in developing a daily meditation habit.
- Want to deepen our existing Buddhist practice of positive emotion.
- Have problems with exploration and self development, relationships and emotional regulation
- Want to develop mastery in our emotional lives.
Shared interest and social support can make meditation practice, study, and healing much easier. Make friends in the course on the slack channel and invite friends who you think could benefit to participate in the course.
These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program
- An overview of mentalization and emotional regulation.
- More understanding of the modes/parts from a schema therapy perspective like:
- Demanding internalized parent voices
- Overcompensation modes like “workaholic mode”, or “self-aggrandizer mode”
- Avoidance detached modes like the “detached self-soother” and the “spaced out fantasy mode”
- Compliant surrender mode
- Impulsive child mode
- Vulnerable child mode (which we reparent with the SRM)
- Healthy Adult mode (which results out of the vulnerable child getting its needs met).
- Get established in traditional Buddhist heart practices.
While there is a strong emphasis on psychological health in this course, it is predominantly Buddhist-inspired. As such, this course will offer an introduction to Buddhist systems of generating positive emotion and working with fixed views (schemas according to schema therapy, or sankharas in the Theravada)
- Develop greater access to positive mental states and grow in confidence when working through negative mental states
- Understand better how your mind works; seeing volitions arise in the mind and noticing the gap before they are acted out
- Learn to use the identification function of mentalization (mindfulness) to catch afflictive mind states as they arise, and respond more creatively. Learn to work through these so that you actually benefit in your day-to-day life
- Increased sense of agency
For your relationships
- Greater valuing of relationships, interpersonal connection, and more ease in them
- Enhanced capacity to feel warmth from and to others
- Clearer understanding of how you show up in relationships
- Acceptance of faults in self and other
- A sense of camaraderie as a result of seeing how our psychological difficulties are rooted in common experiences that affect us all
- Opportunities to find accountability partners to meditate with during the week
- A Slack group to continue discussion during the week
“The slack group enhanced the experience and learning for me, maybe quadrupled the benefits I got. Reading and learning about other people’s experiences and also how you spent the time answering questions to help people with their practice” — Michelle
This is what participants of prior Courses have to say:
Great retreat, thank you so much Cedric. There is something special about Tonglen and using it with the schemas feels so healing. I feel hopeful and inspired to keep working with Tonglen.
Cedric I would just like to say thanks for your wisdom and knowledge of attachment issues and repair. The work you are doing really helps me and I have never come across anything as transformative for me as your meditations. Thank you so much.
This event is offered on a sliding scale to be accessible to anyone.
Please feel free to share with anyone who you think might benefit.
Tier 4$200 ($40 per class)
I have enough resources and would like to support others.
Tier 3$100 ($20 per class)
I have sufficient resources.
Tier 2$40 ($8 per class)
I have some resources.
I don't have the resources (pay whatever you can)
Please note: This program is offered for educational purposes only and is not group-therapy, counselling or any kind of other psychotherapy, nor is it a substitute for the aforementioned. Cedric Reeves the instructor is a meditation teacher, not a psychotherapist, counsellor, or otherwise therapist.