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25th Jul 2022

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Multi-week Online Course

Resolving Grief and Loss

Finding peace with unfinished business through guided meditation and chairwork

5 Week Online Meditation Course

Date: 25th Jul - 22nd Aug 2022
Instructor: Cedric Reeves
Cost: Sliding scale

Join us for this course where we will do guided meditation to resolve grief using chairwork. We will work towards closure for grief and a reorientation of life.

The intended outcome is to bring about acceptance and integration so that we are more present to our lives as they are in the here and now. We will experience more internal coherence, clarity, and energy to embrace life.

Who is this for?

For anyone who has experienced difficult loss, whether of a person, a relationship, or a part of themselves
Suitable for anyone new to attachment-work, or is already experienced.
People with Insecure Attachment.
For people who are willing to do the work to get results

Event Date & Time

Start Date: 25th Jul - End Date: 22nd Aug 2022

There will be one live 90 minute class per week.

course Overview

This program is suitable for beginners to meditation and healing work.

This program will mainly use Chairwork, which involves talking to our loved one or lost part of self. We will dialogue with them and seek resolution, all in the context of guided meditation.

In addition to chairwork, this course will draw on

Gestalt – giving voice to all that is unresolved in the here and now
Existential Psychotherapy – concerned with the human condition and the inevitability of death in life
Attachment Theory (Bowlby)
Metacognitive Therapy – “thinking about thinking”; being able to recognize your thoughts and understand their source
Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (Brown & Elliott)
Stages of Grief (Kübler-Ross) – denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance and hope.

We will also use the Buddhist compassion meditation of “tong len” to further integrate and metabolize our grief. This helps us see grief is part of our shared humanity

You will be encouraged to listen to the guided meditations with your practice pod, however there will be no further homework in this course.

So it is with grief where, if all goes well, can come a strengthening of the inner world, of memory and definition. – John Bowlby

Unresolved loss is an important area assessed on the Adult Attachment Interview (AAI). According to John Bowlby, the creator of Attachment Theory, grief and mourning can disrupt development and even lead to long lasting psychological maladie.

Course Curriculum

The course is broken up into 5 classes

Week 1

Basics of Grief and Grief as an Attachment Disturbance

Lecture Outline

Basics of grief
Grief as an attachment disturbance
Developing the Perfect Nurturer(s) as a means to support emotional regulation during grief-work

Meditation

Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement
Modified Manthorpe Hypnotic Grief Protocol

Homework Assignment

Listen to Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement
Listen to Grief Protocol
Meet with Practice Pod

Week 2

Stages of Grief and Compassion as an Aid in the Grief Process

Lecture Outline

Kubler Ross's Seven Stages of Grief
Worden's Four Tasks of Mourning
Compassion and its importance

Meditation

Modified Manthorpe Hypnotic Grief Protocol
Tong Len (Compassion Meditation)

Homework Assignment

Listen to Compassion Meditation
Listen to Grief Protocol
Meet with Practice Pod

Week 3

Grief Experienced from the Multiplicity of Selves Perspective

Lecture Outline

Making space for contradictory and "incoherent" responses to grief
Anger, relief, longing, child-like regression, embodying maturity (healthy adult modes)

Meditation

Experiencing Grief from Different & Often Polarized Parts of Self
Modified Manthorpe Hypnotic Grief Protocol

Homework Assignment

Listen to Meditation
Listen to Grief Protocol
Meet with Practice Pod

Week 4

Making Peace with Confusion and Contradiction

Lecture Outline

Making peace with confusion and contradiction

Meditation

Trigger Practice / Equanimity Practice / Ease with Confusion
Modified Manthorpe Hypnotic Grief Protocol

Homework Assignment

Listen to Equanimity Practice
Listen to Grief Protocol
Meet with Practice Pod

Week 5

Positive Reorientation Toward New Attachment Figures and Exploration

Lecture Outline

Listen to Grief Protocol
Positive reorientation toward new attachment figures and exploration

Meditation

Modified Manthorpe Hypnotic Grief Protocol
Future Visualization of New Attachment Connections
Future Visudalization of New Explorations

Homework Assignment

Listen to Explorations & Connections Meditation
Listen to Grief Protocol
Meet with Practice Pod

Miscellaneous Notes

There will be time for Q&A and spot coaching.

We will be doing deep work. For that reason please feel free to take a break at any point.

Measure your Progress With Before/After Assessments

Attachment Repair is offering this course that not only is entirely focused on healing the root of your attachment issues but also provides objective tools to measure and track your progress.

Complex Unresolved Grief

Participation in this course will give you the option to enrol into our Complex Unresolved Grief. This Assessment is designed to measure some of the most relevant markers of your attachment style and emotional health.

It includes 1 assessments drawn from the established peer-reviewed literature:

Before, After, and 3-month Follow-up

The Assessments are a valuable tool for measuring and tracking your progress in the course. By taking a Before measurement at the start of the course and an After measurement when the course ends, you will be able to see the effects of the course and the meditations on your attachment style and emotional health.

Additionally, there will be a Follow-up Assessment 3 months after the course ends to see if any changes have persisted or increased. These objective measures can increase confidence in your ability to direct your healing process and deepen the habit of doing inner work.

These assessments give you a ‘handle’ on your current psychology. This augments the capacity to self-reflect (conceptualize where you stand relative to the measure), and to measure progress which equips you with more self-agency around your self-driven pursuit of greater mental health.

Seeing real change with an objective measure helps build up a real and palpable self-agency about knowing that you can change. Doing Before/After helps fortify this primary objective of self-agency around your own healing.

PDF Report

The results of your assessment will be delivered to you in a PDF report that gives you your scores for each of the measures as well as an explanation of what they mean.

You will get a new report for each stage of the Before/After/Follow-up, to easily compare the results and see how your measure changes over time.

Practice Pods

Participants in this course have the option to join a practice pod. This is an informal group of 3-5 students who meet, usually once a week, to listen to a guided meditation, discuss difficulties in practice, and share insights and progress. Connecting with peer learners in this way can keep you motivated, consolidate learning, and create a sense of community.

Who is this for?

This program is for those of us who...

Have unresolved grief of any kind
Are working with grieving over the past, be it a loss of relationship, loss of self, or any other traumatic event
Are looking to improve our psychological health, especially those who have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results
Have problems with exploration and self development, relationships and emotional regulation
Want to optimise our psychological health

Healing Together

Shared interest and social support can make meditation practice, study, and healing much easier. Make friends in the course on the slack channel and invite friends who you think could benefit to participate in the course.

Benefits

These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program

Theoretical Understanding

Deeper knowledge of the grieving process and how it can be interrupted or facilitated.
Greater understanding and compassion for psychological problems and vulnerabilities that affect you and others.

Psychological

Greater sense of closure in relation to existing loss.
More integration of the mind as a whole.
Less identification with your psychological maladies and quirks (ego-dystonia with your maladaptive schemas).
More understanding and compassion towards your parts/modes and needs.

For your relationships

Confidence in the lasting value of relationships with lost loved ones
Better appreciation for the importance and value of interpersonal collaboration

Support Structure

Opportunities to find accountability partners to meditate with
A sense of camaraderie as a result of seeing how our psychological difficulties are rooted in common experiences that affect us all.
Slack group with which to discuss and share experiences and consolidate what you are learning

Testimonials

This is what participants of prior courses have to say:

Antoine

I’m very happy about the Embodying Secure Attachment Course. It’s good to have a course for people who are well on the way of healing their wounds. Comes at the perfect time for me.

Chelsea

I gained an ability to self soothe, meet my needs for validation and feeling seen/heard (which were often unmet in childhood), an overall feeling like I am less alone in my work of healing my attachment. I realize I benefit greatly from an 8 week course with a weekly meeting, I am able to do daily meditations on my own and feel supported in this routine with the weekly meetings. I feel I am actively and consistently working on my attachment repair by being part of a longer course (as opposed to a weekend workshop).

Allyson

THANK YOU!! this is powerful for me, so thank you thank you for sharing your insight. I like how you really balance the “just do the work” attitude with sooo much compassion and empathy for how hard it is. Now I know how to use the immense power of my imagination to heal my most fundamental body-mind-soul mechanisms and have a more joyful, loving life.

Johnny

I love your offerings. Keep them coming. You have a good capacity to make people feel seen – and also show great respect for us as individuals – in itself that is an healing factor in being in courses of yours! Your humbleness and humour – make every call a killer. Rock on. I like learning about these subjects! Feels very helpful in understanding my problems/reason to part of my suffering. I feel I have grown during the course so far – and or moving in a better direction.

Anon

I’m sure this will seem out of the blue to you, but I was just thinking of things I am thankful for and thought of you and the two Attachment Repair courses of yours I had the pleasure to participate in. I just wanted to say a very heartfelt thank you. I want you to know I really appreciated the kindness and effort you put into that work, and into responding to all of our questions. My exposure to your teaching has been immensely helpful for me.

N.P.

Loved the course and loved this kind of emotional work. Look forward to doing more that you offer. Content was excellent. Meditation around Schema modes went quite deep and uncovered difficult emotions. Doing micro hits has improved some situations that would have gone worse.

Allison

I am enjoying the Healing Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment course so much! It's blowing my mind, and that's after decades of amazing therapy, EMDR, attachment couples therapy, neurofeedback, inner child nurturing, self-compassion, and many other profound growth experiences. I’m so delighted by how much I'm getting out of the course. Feels like it's a missing piece for me that is so healing. Thank you !

Stu

I’m knowing myself better which allows me to connect in a more authentic way. I am also recognizing the attachment styles better in people I interact with and hammering out what I am really seeking in a relationship. I didn’t realize how important unconditional exploration and expression was for me until this class.

Dani

Thank you for continuing to make these classes. When I am able to attend, they make a really positive contribution to my mental health :)

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