• Date: 25th Jul - 22nd Aug 2022
  • Instructor: Cedric Reeves
  • Cost: Sliding scale

Join us for this course where we will do guided meditation to resolve grief using chairwork. We will work towards closure for grief and a reorientation of life.

The intended outcome is to bring about acceptance and integration so that we are more present to our lives as they are in the here and now. We will experience more internal coherence, clarity, and energy to embrace life.

Who is this for?

  • For anyone who has experienced difficult loss, whether of a person, a relationship, or a part of themselves
  • Suitable for anyone new to attachment-work, or is already experienced.
  • People with Insecure Attachment.
  • For people who are willing to do the work to get results

Event Date & Time

Start Date: 25th Jul - End Date: 22nd Aug 2022

There will be one live 90 minute class per week.

course Overview

This program is suitable for beginners to meditation and healing work.

This program will mainly use Chairwork, which involves talking to our loved one or lost part of self. We will dialogue with them and seek resolution, all in the context of guided meditation.

In addition to chairwork, this course will draw on

  • Gestalt – giving voice to all that is unresolved in the here and now
  • Existential Psychotherapy – concerned with the human condition and the inevitability of death in life
  • Attachment Theory (Bowlby)
  • Metacognitive Therapy – “thinking about thinking”; being able to recognize your thoughts and understand their source
  • Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (Brown & Elliott)
  • Stages of Grief (Kübler-Ross) – denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance and hope.

We will also use the Buddhist compassion meditation of “tong len” to further integrate and metabolize our grief. This helps us see grief is part of our shared humanity

You will be encouraged to listen to the guided meditations with your practice pod, however there will be no further homework in this course.

So it is with grief where, if all goes well, can come a strengthening of the inner world, of memory and definition. – John Bowlby

Unresolved loss is an important area assessed on the Adult Attachment Interview (AAI).  According to John Bowlby, the creator of Attachment Theory, grief and mourning can disrupt development and even lead to long lasting psychological maladie.

Course Curriculum

The course is broken up into 5 classes

Lecture Outline

  • Basics of grief
  • Grief as an attachment disturbance
  • Developing the Perfect Nurturer(s) as a means to support emotional regulation during grief-work

Meditation

  • Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement
  • Modified Manthorpe Hypnotic Grief Protocol

Homework Assignment

  • Listen to Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement
  • Listen to Grief Protocol
  • Meet with Practice Pod

Lecture Outline

  • Kubler Ross's Seven Stages of Grief
  • Worden's Four Tasks of Mourning
  • Compassion and its importance

Meditation

  • Modified Manthorpe Hypnotic Grief Protocol
  • Tong Len (Compassion Meditation)

Homework Assignment

  • Listen to Compassion Meditation
  • Listen to Grief Protocol
  • Meet with Practice Pod

Lecture Outline

  • Making space for contradictory and "incoherent" responses to grief
  • Anger, relief, longing, child-like regression, embodying maturity (healthy adult modes)

Meditation

  • Experiencing Grief from Different & Often Polarized Parts of Self
  • Modified Manthorpe Hypnotic Grief Protocol

Homework Assignment

  • Listen to Meditation
  • Listen to Grief Protocol
  • Meet with Practice Pod

Lecture Outline

  • Making peace with confusion and contradiction

Meditation

  • Trigger Practice / Equanimity Practice / Ease with Confusion
  • Modified Manthorpe Hypnotic Grief Protocol

Homework Assignment

  • Listen to Equanimity Practice
  • Listen to Grief Protocol
  • Meet with Practice Pod

Lecture Outline

  • Listen to Grief Protocol
  • Positive reorientation toward new attachment figures and exploration

Meditation

  • Modified Manthorpe Hypnotic Grief Protocol
  • Future Visualization of New Attachment Connections
  • Future Visudalization of New Explorations

Homework Assignment

  • Listen to Explorations & Connections Meditation
  • Listen to Grief Protocol
  • Meet with Practice Pod

Miscellaneous Notes

There will be time for Q&A and spot coaching.

We will be doing deep work. For that reason please feel free to take a break at any point.

Practice Pods

Participants in this course have the option to join a practice pod. This is an informal group of 3-5 students who meet, usually once a week, to listen to a guided meditation, discuss difficulties in practice, and share insights and progress. Connecting with peer learners in this way can keep you motivated, consolidate learning, and create a sense of community.

Who is this for?

This program is for those of us who...

  • Have unresolved grief of any kind
  • Are working with grieving over the past, be it a loss of relationship, loss of self, or any other traumatic event
  • Are looking to improve our psychological health, especially those who have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results
  • Have problems with exploration and self development, relationships and emotional regulation
  • Want to optimise our psychological health

Healing Together

Shared interest and social support can make meditation practice, study, and healing much easier. Make friends in the course on the slack channel and invite friends who you think could benefit to participate in the course.

Benefits

These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program

Theoretical Understanding

  • Deeper knowledge of the grieving process and how it can be interrupted or facilitated.
  • Greater understanding and compassion for psychological problems and vulnerabilities that affect you and others.

Psychological

  • Greater sense of closure in relation to existing loss.
  • More integration of the mind as a whole.
  • Less identification with your psychological maladies and quirks (ego-dystonia with your maladaptive schemas).
  • More understanding and compassion towards your parts/modes and needs.

For your relationships

  • Confidence in the lasting value of relationships with lost loved ones
  • Better appreciation for the importance and value of interpersonal collaboration

Support Structure

  • Opportunities to find accountability partners to meditate with
  • A sense of camaraderie as a result of seeing how our psychological difficulties are rooted in common experiences that affect us all.
  • Slack group with which to discuss and share experiences and consolidate what you are learning

Frequently Asked Questions

About Participation

Once you sign up, an email will be sent out to you with a Zoom link. It will allow you to access the live classes. A free Zoom account is necessary, and Zoom needs to be installed on your computer before the event starts.
No, this course is open to anyone, regardless of your familiarity with attachment theory or prior meditation experience.
Yes, there is homework every week. Optimally you should listen to the meditation recordings (30 min) daily or every other day. However, while it is optimal for you to do it, the value of coming to class and doing meditation in class does not rely on you having done the homework. You’ll be assigned to a practice pod of 3 to 5 fellow students. It’s recommended that the practice pod sessions be spent listening to the meditation, discussing practice, and challenges.
Signing up late is perfectly fine. Because the course is practice-oriented, you should catch up by doing the practices in your own time. The recordings of the sessions you were not able to attend will be made available to you. You will be able to catch up on the material and do the meditations in your own time.
Yes, and in fact we highly encouraged you to do both.
The course has been designed for live attendance. All recordings are made available to you every week. It allows you to watch the recordings at home and do the meditations in your own time.

Payment Questions

If for any reason you aren’t satisfied, simply contact us and we will send you a full refund.
If you are experiencing troubles with your payment, simply contact us and we will get back to you as soon as we can.
There are other payment methods listed on our donations page. Otherwise contact us for other options. If you lack any ability to make online payments, let us know and we can sign you up for free.

Technical Questions

The recordings will be available for two more months after the course ends.
The recordings will be made available as video and also as audio-only.

If you are experiencing any technical issues relating to accessing the material or live sessions, please get in touch with us. We will get back to you as soon as possible.

We can be reached with our online contact form.

Testimonials

This is what participants of prior courses have to say:

Johnny

I love your offerings. Keep them coming. You have a good capacity to make people feel seen – and also show great respect for us as individuals – in itself that is an healing factor in being in courses of yours! Your humbleness and humour – make every call a killer. Rock on. I like learning about these subjects! Feels very helpful in understanding my problems/reason to part of my suffering. I feel I have grown during the course so far – and or moving in a better direction.

Allison

I am enjoying the Healing Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment course so much! It's blowing my mind, and that's after decades of amazing therapy, EMDR, attachment couples therapy, neurofeedback, inner child nurturing, self-compassion, and many other profound growth experiences. I’m so delighted by how much I'm getting out of the course. Feels like it's a missing piece for me that is so healing. Thank you !

N.P.

Loved the course and loved this kind of emotional work. Look forward to doing more that you offer. Content was excellent. Meditation around Schema modes went quite deep and uncovered difficult emotions. Doing micro hits has improved some situations that would have gone worse.

Dani

Thank you for continuing to make these classes. When I am able to attend, they make a really positive contribution to my mental health :)

Allyson

THANK YOU!! this is powerful for me, so thank you thank you for sharing your insight. I like how you really balance the “just do the work” attitude with sooo much compassion and empathy for how hard it is. Now I know how to use the immense power of my imagination to heal my most fundamental body-mind-soul mechanisms and have a more joyful, loving life.

Anastasia Chebotaryova

I want to say thank you for giving this opportunity and I recommend this course because of the huge impact it is making on my well-being. It is easier to self-regulate emotionally and I have a deeper understanding of attachment and compassion and it’s place and impact in life.

Chelsea

I gained an ability to self soothe, meet my needs for validation and feeling seen/heard (which were often unmet in childhood), an overall feeling like I am less alone in my work of healing my attachment. I realize I benefit greatly from an 8 week course with a weekly meeting, I am able to do daily meditations on my own and feel supported in this routine with the weekly meetings. I feel I am actively and consistently working on my attachment repair by being part of a longer course (as opposed to a weekend workshop).

Anon

I’m sure this will seem out of the blue to you, but I was just thinking of things I am thankful for and thought of you and the two Attachment Repair courses of yours I had the pleasure to participate in. I just wanted to say a very heartfelt thank you. I want you to know I really appreciated the kindness and effort you put into that work, and into responding to all of our questions. My exposure to your teaching has been immensely helpful for me.

Stu

I’m knowing myself better which allows me to connect in a more authentic way. I am also recognizing the attachment styles better in people I interact with and hammering out what I am really seeking in a relationship. I didn’t realize how important unconditional exploration and expression was for me until this class.

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This Post Has 4 Comments

  1. Peter Hindmarsh

    Not been able to make a $150 payment (which I hope is acceptable) – keeps showing the $300.
    Peter.

    1. Attachment Repair

      Hi Peter,
      If you select the “Pay what you can” box and type $150 in, it should then refresh the Product table to show your new price of $150. If that still doesn’t work you can make a manual payment to us via the donations page: attachmentrepair.com/donations, then shoot us an email and I’ll sign you up.

  2. annie pierson

    Cedric will this course on grief be offered again? I must have missed it – I don’t get good reminders of course starts in my inbox from you so I don’t even know if I already signed up lol.
    But, I missed two mondays already and cannot do midday weekday classes, but have a strong need and interest in grief work.
    Any thoughts or insight on future offerings of this sort?
    Thanks so much,
    Annie

    1. Hi Annie,
      Yes we plan on offering this course again, probably in October. We do send out reminders for each course the day before, please make sure they’re not landing in your spam.

      I just checked and you aren’t signed up to this current Grief course

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Please note: This program is offered for educational purposes only and is not group-therapy, counselling or any kind of other psychotherapy, nor is it a substitute for the aforementioned. The instructor Cedric Reeves is a meditation teacher, not a psychotherapist, counsellor, or otherwise therapist.