• Date: 1st Mar - 5th Apr 2023
  • Instructor: Cedric Reeves
  • Cost: Sliding scale
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Join us for this course where we will systematically develop the four Sublime Emotions of Loving Kindness (Friendliness), Compassion, Sympathetic Joy, and Equanimous Love. We will do this in formal meditation and apply it to daily life.

The intended outcome is fluent access to these sublime emotions in daily life. "The measure of a meditation practice is a transformation in daily life."

This program is for people who are willing to do the work (meditation in this case) to become more loving, happier, and more secure in their attachment relationship.

Who is this for?

  • People interested in developing loving kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy, and equanimous love on and off the cushion.
  • Suitable for anyone new to attachment-work, or is already experienced.
  • People with Insecure Attachment.
  • For anyone who is willing to do the work to get results.

Format

  • 5 Week Course: One live 90 minute class per week
  • Live Online Sessions: The live sessions will be hosted on Zoom. An email with the zoom links will be sent to you after you have registered.
  • Q&A: There will be opportunity to ask questions during the Q&A section.

Attendance & Recordings

  • Partial attendance is fine - however you get best results if you attend all sessions.
  • Late Starts: You can join even after it has started.
  • View at your own pace: The event will be recorded and sent out to registered participants for viewing on your own schedule.

Event Date & Time

Start Date: 1st Mar - End Date: 5th Apr 2023

This course will run twice in order to be accessible to people in different time zones. The content is exactly the same. You will get the access details for both after signing up.

There will be one live 90 minute class per week.

What to Expect

Guided meditation will be the main focus of the program. There will be ample opportunity to ask questions and share whatever you feel comfortable with. There will be no pressure to do so; passive participation is perfectly fine.

Leading a full and happy life partially depends on your access to states of love (friendliness, compassion, joy, and unconditional love)

The goal of this course is to

  • systematically develop these states in daily formal meditation practice (this is traditional in Buddhist meditation training)
  • add on visualization practices to the end of each formal meditation practice where you rehearse acting out these sublime emotions with others
  • integrate these states into your daily life by acting them out.  That is to act from a place of friendliness, compassion, sympathetic joy, and equanimity with others in your daily life. To that point there will be weekly homework assignments to support integration.
    • generosity practices
    • silent verbalizations made while acting out the sublime emotion (love) with others in your daily life

course Overview

This program is suitable for beginners to meditation and healing work.

What does secure attachment come down to? In a word, “LOVE”: the ability to be with another in a state of love.

This course is a systematic training and cultivation of the states of love drawing from the ancient Buddhist meditation practices of the sublime emotions.

People with secure attachment are at ease with expressing and receiving love.

People with dismissing-avoidant attachment are not at ease with giving or receiving love.  They are cut off from love. This is likely because they associate rejection with their attempts to connect, an artifact of childhood deprivation.

People with anxious-preoccupied attachment anxiously fixate on love and often expect that it will be taken away (abandonment fear).  This is due to care, attention, and love having been so unreliable and intermittent in their childhoods.

People with disorganized (fearful) attachment (early developmental trauma) associate love with fear and abuse due to abuse in early childhood.

So, the implication is that people with insecure attachment are, likely, cut off from accessing states of love in an uncomplicated, ‘clean’ way.

To address this directly, in this course we will systematically train ourselves in these states of love such that they are more and more accessible.  This naturally moves us in the direction of earned secure attachment. I believe this is especially true when we:

  1. have deep, absorbed experiences of the states of love in concentrated meditation, and
  2. visualize/rehearse manifesting love in our daily lives while still absorbed in deep meditation, and
  3. intentionally enter into these states of love in daily life, practicing them repeatedly.

These three practices are the entire focus of this course.

An important counterbalance to developing love is strength (boundary setting, assertiveness, protection, and even the appropriate expression of protective anger).

Love can only be fully expressed when held in an envelop of assertiveness and the capacity to protect. We will discuss and develop assertiveness along side cultivating love such to produce a balanced development of the two.

 

 

Course Curriculum

The course is broken up into 5 classes

Lecture Outline

  • Course Overview
  • Friendliness

Orientation to the course.

Understanding insecure attachment in terms of an ‘impaired access to the mental and physical state of love’ and how to repair this through systematic cultivation of the states of love

The importance of coupling love with the capacity to set healthy boundaries to avoid “idiot compassion”, enmeshment, and even danger.

Introduction to cultivating Friendliness

  1. what
  2. why/benefits
  3. how
  4. when
  5. who
  6. what to watch out for

The importance of generosity. Generosity is the first step on the path.

*Practice Homework*
* 30 min. daily sitting: Metta
* The importance of joy and bliss for developing a sustainable practice

Meditation

  • Loving Kindness (friendliness) Meditation with visualization of real world application of kindness with others

Homework Assignment

  • 30 mins daily practice
  • six acts of generosity
  • Apply the practice of friendliness systematically in your daily life (Micro-hits) (the Mantra: "How can I help?"))

What is Compassion

How do I systematically train compassion?

What are the benefits?

How does this support my path to earned secure attachment.

What do I need to watch out for?  Are there any pit-falls?

Compassion as a means of doing emotional self regulation (mastery)

Practicing compassion as a means for becoming more comfortable with the suffering of others and your own suffering

How to do Tong Len meditation (taking and sending)

Meditation

  • Tong Len Meditation (taking and sending) plus visualization of application in daily life

Deeper dive on compassion towards self.

Meditation

  • Tong Leng meditation with visualization of application of compassion in daily life

What is Sympathetic joy?

How do I systematically train it?

What are the benefits?

How does this support my path to earned secure attachment.

What do I need to watch out for?  Are there any pit-falls?

Meditation

  • Sympathetic Joy meditation with visualization of application in daily life

Equanimity (unconditional peace)

What is equanimity (unconditional peace)

How do I systematically train equanimity?

What are the benefits?

How does this support my path to earned secure attachment.

What do I need to watch out for?  Are there any pit-falls?

Equanimity as a means for developing humility, and as counterbalance to enmeshment, grandiosity, excessive self sacrifice.

Equanimous love (Unconditional Love)

What is equanimous love (unconditional love)

How do I systematically train unconditional love?

What are the benefits?

How does this support my path to earned secure attachment.

What do I need to watch out for?  Are there any pit-falls?

What are the conditions and limitations of unconditional love (naturally there are some!)

 

Meditation

  • Unconditional Peace (equanimity) meditation with visualization of application in daily life
  • Unconditional Love (equanimous love) meditation with visualization of application in daily life

Miscellaneous Notes

There will be time for Q&A and spot coaching.

We will be doing deep work. For that reason please feel free to take a break at any point.

Practice Pods

As an option, we will set people up into practice pods of three to five people.
The suggestion is that the pods meet up once a week to first do 30 minutes of meditation practice together and then to discuss practice.

Who is this for?

This program is for those of us who...

  • Want to become more joyous
  • Want to enjoy meditation more
  • Are looking to improve our psychological health, especially those who have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results.
  • Have problems with exploration and self development, relationships and emotional regulation
  • Want to optimise our psychological health
  • Want to understand the early foundations of our psychological development

Healing Together

Shared interest and social support can make meditation practice, study, and healing much easier. Make friends in the course on the slack channel and invite friends who you think could benefit to participate in the course.

Benefits

These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program

Theoretical Understanding

  • Understanding and compassion for your own psychological difficulties and how to improve many of them through systematic mind training (meditation).
  • Where insecure attachment comes from
  • How to treat insecure attachment by practicing the sublime emotions in formal seated meditation and also in informal daily life practice

Psychological

  • Better able to do emotional regulation on the spot in your daily life with ‘micro-hits’ of meditation.
  • Less blame of self or others.
  • More understanding and compassion towards your parts/modes and needs.

For your relationships

  • Better appreciation for the importance and value of interpersonal collaboration

Support Structure

  • Opportunities to find accountability partners to meditate with
  • A sense of camaraderie as a result of seeing how our psychological difficulties are rooted in common experiences that affect us all.
  • Slack group with which to discuss and share experiences and consolidate what you are learning

Frequently Asked Questions

About Participation

Once you sign up, an email will be sent out to you with a Zoom link. It will allow you to access the live classes. A free Zoom account is necessary, and Zoom needs to be installed on your computer before the event starts.
No, this course is open to anyone, regardless of your familiarity with attachment theory or prior meditation experience.
Yes, there is homework every week. Optimally you should listen to the meditation recordings (30 min) daily or every other day. However, while it is optimal for you to do it, the value of coming to class and doing meditation in class does not rely on you having done the homework. You’ll be assigned to a practice pod of 3 to 5 fellow students. It’s recommended that the practice pod sessions be spent listening to the meditation, discussing practice, and challenges.
Signing up late is perfectly fine. Because the course is practice-oriented, you should catch up by doing the practices in your own time. The recordings of the sessions you were not able to attend will be made available to you. You will be able to catch up on the material and do the meditations in your own time.
Yes, and in fact we highly encouraged you to do both.
The course has been designed for live attendance. All recordings are made available to you every week. It allows you to watch the recordings at home and do the meditations in your own time.

Payment Questions

If for any reason you aren’t satisfied, simply contact us and we will send you a full refund.
If you are experiencing troubles with your payment, simply contact us and we will get back to you as soon as we can.
There are other payment methods listed on our donations page. Otherwise contact us for other options. If you lack any ability to make online payments, let us know and we can sign you up for free.

Technical Questions

The recordings will be available for two more months after the course ends.
The recordings will be made available as video and also as audio-only.

If you are experiencing any technical issues relating to accessing the material or live sessions, please get in touch with us. We will get back to you as soon as possible.

We can be reached with our online contact form.

Testimonials

This is what participants of prior courses have to say:

Allyson

THANK YOU!! this is powerful for me, so thank you thank you for sharing your insight. I like how you really balance the “just do the work” attitude with sooo much compassion and empathy for how hard it is. Now I know how to use the immense power of my imagination to heal my most fundamental body-mind-soul mechanisms and have a more joyful, loving life.

Allison

I am enjoying the Healing Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment course so much! It's blowing my mind, and that's after decades of amazing therapy, EMDR, attachment couples therapy, neurofeedback, inner child nurturing, self-compassion, and many other profound growth experiences. I’m so delighted by how much I'm getting out of the course. Feels like it's a missing piece for me that is so healing. Thank you !

Antoine

I’m very happy about the Embodying Secure Attachment Course. It’s good to have a course for people who are well on the way of healing their wounds. Comes at the perfect time for me.

Dani

Thank you for continuing to make these classes. When I am able to attend, they make a really positive contribution to my mental health :)

Anon

I’m sure this will seem out of the blue to you, but I was just thinking of things I am thankful for and thought of you and the two Attachment Repair courses of yours I had the pleasure to participate in. I just wanted to say a very heartfelt thank you. I want you to know I really appreciated the kindness and effort you put into that work, and into responding to all of our questions. My exposure to your teaching has been immensely helpful for me.

N.P.

Loved the course and loved this kind of emotional work. Look forward to doing more that you offer. Content was excellent. Meditation around Schema modes went quite deep and uncovered difficult emotions. Doing micro hits has improved some situations that would have gone worse.

Chelsea

I gained an ability to self soothe, meet my needs for validation and feeling seen/heard (which were often unmet in childhood), an overall feeling like I am less alone in my work of healing my attachment. I realize I benefit greatly from an 8 week course with a weekly meeting, I am able to do daily meditations on my own and feel supported in this routine with the weekly meetings. I feel I am actively and consistently working on my attachment repair by being part of a longer course (as opposed to a weekend workshop).

Johnny

I love your offerings. Keep them coming. You have a good capacity to make people feel seen – and also show great respect for us as individuals – in itself that is an healing factor in being in courses of yours! Your humbleness and humour – make every call a killer. Rock on. I like learning about these subjects! Feels very helpful in understanding my problems/reason to part of my suffering. I feel I have grown during the course so far – and or moving in a better direction.

Stu

I’m knowing myself better which allows me to connect in a more authentic way. I am also recognizing the attachment styles better in people I interact with and hammering out what I am really seeking in a relationship. I didn’t realize how important unconditional exploration and expression was for me until this class.

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Please note: This program is offered for educational purposes only and is not group-therapy, counselling or any kind of other psychotherapy, nor is it a substitute for the aforementioned. The instructor Cedric Reeves is a meditation teacher, not a psychotherapist, counsellor, or otherwise therapist.