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  • 6 video lectures, 4 hours total
  • 15 guided meditations, 5 hours total

Overview

This Self-Paced Course focuses on repairing early attachment conditioning through a series of guided meditations along with relevant psycho-education.

Attachment Theory describes one of the earliest phases of our psychological development. It describes the behaviours of the infant from ages 6 months to 3 years when it ventures away from the caregiver to explore and then goes back to seek safety, affection, and care from the ‘secure base’.

Attachment conditioning is foundational to our psychological health. When our foundational attachment conditioning is insecure then we experience developmental problems with our exploratory abilities, self-development, emotional self-regulation and relationships with others.

The retreat’s structure is set up such to help us heal common aspects of disordered attachment conditioning. There will be three guided meditation sessions in each of the two sessions (morning and evening) focused on the first five of Jeffery Young’s 18 schemas. These five schemas all relate back directly to attachment conditioning.

According to Jeffery Young “An early maladaptive schema is a pervasive self-defeating or dysfunctional theme or pattern of memories, emotions, and physical sensations, developed during childhood or adolescence and elaborated throughout one’s lifetime, that often has the form of a belief about the self or the world.” Jeffrey Young also calls the schemas “life traps”. We will work towards healing and dismantling them in this program!

Details about modalities

Research into Schema Therapy indicates it is effective at treating grave psychological disorders like complex PTSD, personality disorders, treatment resistant depression and anxiety, and substance abuse issues.

To this point, schema therapy was developed by Jeffrey Young in response to seeing how traditional Beckian Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) did not yield satisfactory results for patients with more serious disturbances like personality disorders.

Ideal Parent Figure Protocol, developed by Dan Brown, has been found to be effective for moving people with insecure attachment to secure attachment after repeated sessions.

Said differently, the techniques and frame works used in this program are very effective even for difficult cases.

Retreat Structures: Schemas, Psycho-Education and Guided Meditations

Schemas

We will do psycho-education and reparative meditations on each the following schemas:

  • Defectiveness & Shame (dismissing schema)
  • Social Isolation (dismissing schema)
  • Emotional Deprivation (schema common to all types of insecure attachment)
  • Abandonment & Instability (preoccupied schema)
  • Mistrust & Abuse (disorganized schema)

Moreover we’ll investigate how each of these schemas manifest as behaviors (schema modes); particularly the coping modes of surrender, avoidance, and overcompensation. Then we’ll regress back to the vulnerable child mode and feel into the schema, studying how it was brought about through difficult childhood experiences. Then we’ll reparent the vulnerable child around those difficult experiences.

The program will be in two parts, a morning and an evening session. In the morning session we will cover the schemas of “Abandonment & Instability”, “Mistrust & Abuse”, and “Emotional Deprivation”. The second session will cover “Defectiveness & Shame”, “Social Isolation & Alienation” and “Emotional Deprivation”.

Psycho-Education

We will start with a brief lecture on attachment theory, attachment repair, and Schema Therapy. Then, before each Schema oriented meditation guidance, we will do a brief psycho-education on that particular schema drawing both from Jeffrey Young’s Schema Theory and Attachment Theory.

Guided Meditations

Guided meditation will be the primary means for working through the schemas. We will be taking an attachment theory based re-parenting approach in the guided meditation. These meditations will give uscorrective emotional experiences. The “perfect nurturers” will reparent our inner, vulnerable child in the meditation. These meditations will help us remap the ‘internal working model of attachment’.

We will apply each of these meditations to each the five schemas listed above:

  • Schema Repatterning Meditation, a meditation in which our “perfect nurturers” reparent our inner, vulnerable child.
  • Positive Opposite (credit to Dan Brown) meditation will open up our imagination to see how we can move past our schema “life traps” and open up to the positive opposite of our schemas. Thereby we see new and better possibilities for our lives. That helps us actually change the behaviors towards the positive;
  • Mentalization exercises. Mentalization, also known as metacognition is the ability to reflect on your own and others’ mental states. This helps us understand the motivations that drive behavior. Weak mentalization abilities are correlated with poorer functioning in life, and psychological disorders like personality disorders, depression, anxiety disorders, and substance abuse disorder. Strong mentalization is a hallmark of robust mental health. Understanding your own and others mental states helps to develop confidence in making sense out of the world and your experience of it. All the guided meditations will be peppered with instructions that encourage looking back at one’s own mind state and the mind states of others. This will improve our mentalization abilities.

Who is this For

This program is for those of us who...

  • Are looking to improve our psychological health, especially if you have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results
  • Want to let go of old grudges
  • Difficulties with intimate relationships
  • Have difficulties with emotional regulation

Benefits & Outcomes

These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program

Theoretical Understanding

  • The importance of forgiveness and how to cultivate it
  • Understanding of how insecure attachment forms an important foundation of adult mental health

Psychological

  • A better ability to observe your mind with metacognitive awareness as a result of the mentalization exercises peppered through the guided meditations
  • Better able to use forgiveness as an antidote to negative mental states (anger, holding grudges etc)
  • Less blame of self or others

For your relationships

  • More forgiveness = easier relationships that repair more quickly after the inevitable ruptures that occur

Included Files:

1

Introduction to Attachment Theory and the Perfect Nurturers

Introduction to Attachment Theory and the Perfect Nurturers

Video
52 mins

Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement

Meditation
31 mins

Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement

Meditation
29 mins
2

Abandonment and Instability

Abandonment and Instability

Video
46 mins

Interview of Abandonment and Instability

Meditation
8 mins

SRM on Abandonment and Instability

Meditation
32 mins
3

Mistrust and Abuse

Mistrust and Abuse

Video
40 mins

Interview of Mistrust and Abuse

Meditation
7 mins

SRM on Mistrust and Abuse

Meditation
32 mins
4

Emotional Deprivation

Emotional Deprivation

Video
58 mins

Interview of Emotional Deprivation

Meditation
9 mins

Interview of Emotional Deprivation

Meditation
10 mins

SRM on Emotional Deprivation

Meditation
30 mins

SRM on Emotional Deprivation

Meditation
42 mins
5

Defectiveness and Shame

Defectiveness and Shame

Video
45 mins

Interview of Defectiveness and Shame

Meditation
11 mins

SRM on Defectiveness and Shame

Meditation
33 mins
6

Social Isolation and Alienation

Social Isolation and Alienation

Video
29 mins

Interview of Social Isolation and Alienation

Meditation
8 mins

SRM on Social Isolation and Alienation

Meditation
20 mins

Self Esteem

Meditation
17 mins
  • 6 video lectures, 4 hours total
  • 15 guided meditations extracted as .mp3s, 5 hours total

Frequently Asked Questions

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Description

This Self-Paced Course is focused on repairing early attachment conditioning through a series of guided meditations along with relevant psycho-education on Schema Therapy. It is for people who are looking to improve their psychological health.

The course will include lecture material and meditations to address the following schemas as they usually relate to Attachment Styles:

  • Emotional Deprivation (common to all insecure attachment styles)
  • Defectiveness & Shame (Dismissing)
  • Social Isolation (Dismissing)
  • Abandonment & Instability (Preoccupied)
  • Mistrust & Abuse (Disorganized)

Moreover we’ll investigate how each of these schemas manifest as behaviors (schema modes); particularly the coping modes of Surrender, Avoidance, and Overcompensation.  From there, we’ll regress back to the vulnerable child mode and feel into the schema, studying how it was brought about through difficult childhood experiences. Then, we’ll reparent the vulnerable child around those difficult experiences.

The techniques taught include:

  • Schema Repatterning Meditation, a meditation in which our “perfect nurturers” reparent our inner, vulnerable child.
  • Tong Len, a Tibetan Buddhist compassion meditation. This will help us cultivate compassion generally and also particularly around the schema in question. Moreover, by considering how others suffer with the same schemas we will see how we are not alone in our difficulties. This helps to normalize the painful experience of the schemas.
  • Positive Opposite meditation (Dan Brown) will open up our imagination to see how we can move past our schema “life traps” and open up to the positive opposite of our schemas. Thereby we see new and better possibilities for our lives. That helps us actually change the behaviors towards the positive;
  • Mentalization exercises. Mentalization, also known as metacognition, is the ability to reflect on your own and others’ mental states. This helps us understand the motivations that drive behavior. Understanding your own and others’ mental states helps to develop confidence in making sense out of the world and your experience of it.

 

This program is for you if you want to work on your:

  • psychological health (especially if you have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results)
  • ability to connect with others
  • understanding of yourself
  • emotional regulation

The material for this course was recorded during an online-event in January 2022.

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