The Approval-Seeking/Recognition-Seeking Schema

The Approval-Seeking/Recognition-Seeking schema is a psychological concept that refers to a set of beliefs and expectations about oneself and one’s relationships with others that can develop in response to early experiences of seeking approval or recognition from others. People with this schema may have a strong need for approval and may feel a sense of inadequacy or worthlessness if they do not receive it.

There are several key characteristics of the Approval-Seeking/Recognition-Seeking schema. These include:

1. A strong need for approval: People with this schema may have a strong need for approval from others and may feel a sense of inadequacy or worthlessness if they do not receive it.
2. Difficulty making decisions: The strong need for approval may make it difficult for people with this schema to make decisions, as they may feel uncertain or anxious if they do not receive approval or recognition from others.
3. A tendency to conform to others’ expectations: The need for approval may lead people with this schema to conform to the expectations of others, rather than asserting their own needs and desires.
4. Difficulty with self-acceptance: The strong need for approval may make it difficult for people with this schema to accept themselves as they are, and they may have a tendency to compare themselves to others.

The Approval-Seeking/Recognition-Seeking schema can have a significant impact on a person’s relationships and can make it difficult for them to form and maintain healthy, fulfilling connections with others. It can also contribute to the development of other psychological issues, such as low self-esteem and a lack of self-acceptance. It is important for people with this schema to work on developing their self-acceptance and on learning to value themselves independently of others’ approval.

How does the Approval-Seeking/Recognition-Seeking Schema relate to Attachment Theory?

The Approval-Seeking/Recognition-Seeking schema can be seen as an example of an insecure attachment style, specifically an anxious attachment style. People with an anxious attachment style tend to have a negative view of themselves and a strong need for reassurance from others. They may also have a fear of abandonment and a tendency to become excessively clingy or demanding in relationships.

The Approval-Seeking/Recognition-Seeking schema can be thought of as a specific type of anxious attachment style that is characterized by a strong need for approval and a sense of inadequacy or worthlessness if it is not received. This schema can influence how people feel about themselves and their relationships with others.