Schema Therapy

Subjugation Schema

The Subjugation Schema

The Subjugation schema is a psychological concept that refers to a set of beliefs and expectations about oneself and one’s relationships with others that can develop in response to early experiences of being controlled or oppressed by others. People with this schema may feel a strong need to please others and may have a tendency to sacrifice their own needs and desires in order to avoid conflict or please others.

There are several key characteristics of the Subjugation schema. These include:

  1. A strong need to please others: People with this schema may feel a strong need to please others and may have a tendency to sacrifice their own needs and desires in order to avoid conflict or please others.
  2. Difficulty expressing one’s own needs and desires: The need to please others may make it difficult for people with this schema to express their own needs and desires, and they may have trouble asserting themselves in relationships.
  3. A tendency to put others’ needs before one’s own: The strong need to please others may lead people with this schema to put the needs of others before their own, even to the point of neglecting their own well-being.
  4. Difficulty setting boundaries: The tendency to put others’ needs before one’s own may make it difficult for people with this schema to set healthy boundaries and to assert themselves in relationships.

The Subjugation schema can have a significant impact on a person’s relationships and can make it difficult for them to form and maintain healthy, fulfilling connections with others. It can also contribute to the development of other psychological issues, such as low self-esteem and a lack of assertiveness. It is important for people with this schema to work on developing their assertiveness and on setting healthy boundaries in their relationships.

How does the Subjugation Schema relate to Attachment Theory?

The Subjugation schema can be seen as an example of an insecure attachment style, specifically an anxious attachment style. People with an anxious attachment style tend to have a negative view of themselves and a strong need for reassurance from others. They may also have a fear of abandonment and a tendency to become excessively clingy or demanding in relationships.

The Subjugation schema can be thought of as a specific type of anxious attachment style that is characterized by a strong need to please others and a tendency to sacrifice one’s own needs and desires in order to avoid conflict or please others. This schema can influence how people feel about themselves and their relationships with others.