This is a digital Self-Paced Course

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  • Lifetime access to course material

Download contains:

  • 4 video lectures, 3 hours total
  • 13 guided meditations, 3 hours total

Overview

This Self-Paced Course will focus on working through negative early attachment conditioning especially as it relates to codependency and other-directedness. We will approach this from attachment theory and attachment repair perspectives.

We see insecure attachment as a pattern of beliefs made by emotional memories. We will explore these beliefs and how we can set new patterns through meditation.

preoccupied attachment
Anatomy of Preoccupied Attachment

 

Attachment Theory

Attachment Theory describes one of the earliest phases of our psychological development. It describes the behaviours of the infant from ages 6 months to three years of age when it ventures away from the caregiver to explore and then goes back to seek safety, affection, and care from the ‘secure base’. These early experiences imprint on us forming emotional memories (schemas) that go on to condition many aspects of life thereafter.

Schema Therapy

According to Jeffery Young “An early maladaptive schema is a pervasive self-defeating or dysfunctional theme or pattern of memories, emotions, and physical sensations, developed during childhood or adolescence and elaborated throughout one’s lifetime, that often has the form of a belief about the self or the world.” Jeffrey Young also calls the schemas “life traps”.  These negative beliefs/expectations/schemas are core features of insecure attachment

Meditations (the primary experiential healing intervention in this course)

We’ll do guided meditations that address these traits of insecure attachment which cause us to be overly concerned with other people. These will include:

  • Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement – Visualizing loving imaginary figures that model secure attachment.  This meditation overlaps largely with Ideal Parent Figure Protocol
  • Schema Repatterning Meditation – Bringing up and disconfirming relevant schemas (limiting beliefs), including those of:
    • Self Sacrifice
    • Self Subjugation
    • Approval Seeking and Attention Seeking
      (These 3 schemas comprise the Other-Directedness schema domain of Schema Therapy which is the core of ‘codependency’)

Chairwork

Additionally we’ll do “chairwork” (a type of parts-work similar to Internal Family Systems (IFS)) on our self-sacrificying parts to understand them better. We will see how based on our deeply held “emotional knowings” that there is a part of us that believes that “compulsive care taking” is necessary. Then we’ll have an emotionally corrective experience so that we no longer experience the self sacrifice as necessary.

 

Who is this For

This program is for those of us who...

  • Want to work through codependency and excessive self-sacrifice
  • Want to work through self-subjugation
  • Want to work through approval seeking
  • Are looking to improve our psychological health, especially those who have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results.
  • Have problems with exploration and self development, relationships and emotional regulation
  • Want to understand the early foundations of our psychological development

Benefits & Outcomes

These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program

Theoretical Understanding

  • Better understanding of schemas and how they affect you.
  • Seeing that what you want matters.
  • Overview of attachment and how it relates to codependency.
  • Seeing how codependent behaviors are ’emotionally necessary’ which helps lessen the shame of the behaviors.

Psychological

  • Understanding how compulsive care-taking was adaptive in your childhood, helping you survive
  • Lived, emotionally corrective experience that helps us feel that compulsive caregiving is not necessary.
  • Less identification with your psychological maladies and quirks.
  • A better ability to observe your mind with metacognitive awareness as a result of the mentalization exercises peppered through the guided meditations.
  • Better able to do emotional regulation on the spot in your daily life with ‘micro-hits’ of meditation.
  • Less blame of self or others.

For your relationships

  • Permission to take care of yourself.
  • Better appreciation for the importance and value of interpersonal collaboration.
  • Stronger ability to connect from a place of security instead of anxiety.

Included Files:

1

Introduction to Codependency and Attachment Repair

Introduction to Codependency and Attachment Repair

Video
36 mins

Safety, Attunement, and Soothing

Meditation
9 mins

Safety, Attunement, and Soothing

Meditation
15 mins
2

Self Sacrifice

Self Sacrifice

Video
61 mins

Chairwork on Self Sacrifice

Meditation
11 mins

Chairwork on Self Sacrifice

Meditation
9 mins

Schema Repatterning Meditation on Self Sacrifice

Meditation
34 mins

Schema Repatterning Meditation on Self Sacrifice

Meditation
23 mins
3

Self Subjugation

Self Subjugation

Video
45 mins

Chairwork on Self Subjugation

Meditation
15 mins

Chairwork on Self Subjugation

Meditation
10 mins

Schema Repatterning Meditation on Self Subjugation

Meditation
28 mins

Schema Repatterning Meditation on Self Subjugation

Meditation
25 mins
4

Approval Seeking

Approval Seeking

Video
39 mins

Chairwork on Approval Seeking

Meditation
17 mins

Schema Repatterning Meditation on Approval Seeking

Meditation
27 mins

Chairwork on Approval Seeking

Meditation
12 mins
  • 4 video lectures, 3 hours total
  • 13 guided meditations extracted as .mp3s, 3 hours total

Frequently Asked Questions

Self-Paced Courses

Yes, and in fact we highly encouraged you to do both.
By buying this course you receive lifetime access to a collection of videos and guided meditation tracks. These are organized so that there is a progressive order to them, but you can take them as slowly or as quickly as you'd like, and you can always view the same content again.
Once you've completed your purchase, you'll get a link to download the course. You can then view the audio or video files from your laptop, desktop, smartphone, or any devices of your own choice. There is no limit to how many devices you can access the course from.
You can download and keep this course forever and watch it at your own pace as many times as you wish. There is no live Q&A section.

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Description

This self-paced course is an opportunity for people with codependent tendencies to gain freedom from limiting beliefs. We will bring awareness and understanding to the beliefs that inform compulsive caretaking and disconfirm them with targeted meditation.

insecure attachment

 

This course will focus on working through negative early attachment conditioning especially as it relates to codependency and other-directedness. We will approach this from attachment theory and attachment repair perspectives.

Those schemas are:

  1. Approval Seeking/Attention Seeking
  2. Self-Sacrifice
  3. Self-Subjugation

Attachment Theory

Attachment Theory describes one of the earliest phases of our psychological development. It describes the behaviours of the infant from ages 6 months to three years of age when it ventures away from the caregiver to explore and then goes back to seek safety, affection, and care from the ‘secure base’. These early experiences imprint on us forming emotional memories (schemas) that go on to condition many aspects of life thereafter.

Schema Therapy

According to Jeffery Young “An early maladaptive schema is a pervasive self-defeating or dysfunctional theme or pattern of memories, emotions, and physical sensations, developed during childhood or adolescence and elaborated throughout one’s lifetime, that often has the form of a belief about the self or the world.” Jeffrey Young also calls the schemas “life traps”.

Chairwork

Additionally we’ll do “chairwork” on our self-sacrificying parts to understand them better. We will see how based on our deeply held “emotional knowings” that there is a part of us that believes that “compulsive care taking is necessary. Then we’ll have an emotionally corrective experience so that we no longer experience the self sacrifice as necessary.

This program is for you if you want to work on your:

  • Tendencies to place others first, even when it harms you
  • Traits of insecure attachment
  • Exploration and self development, relationships, and emotional regulation
  • Understanding of the early foundations of your psychological development

 

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