Heal Your Anxious Attachment
Self-Paced Course
This is a digital Self-Paced Course
- Simply purchase and download the zip
- Lifetime access to course material
Download contains:
- 9 video lectures, 12 hours total
- 39 guided meditations, 12 hours total
Overview
Heal your Anxious Attachment
This course is a deep dive into working through features of Anxious Attachment. You will be equipped with the knowledge and meditation practices to start the healing process from Anxious Attachment to Earned Secure Attachment. The primary modality is guided, visualization meditation that uses “perfect nurturers” to reparent our inner child. This is done to create emotionally corrective experiences. These emotionally corrective experiences bring about memory reconsolidation, what Bruce Ecker calls “transformational change”. In addition to the attachment repair meditations with the perfect nurturers, there will be exercises to recognize our particular preoccupied patterns in daily life, bring them to consciousness, and repattern them. This program is for you if you want to work on your:- Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment
- Emotional regulation abilities
- Relationships with loved ones
- Develop greater assertiveness and exploration skills
This self-paced course covers:
- Repatterning the core, unconscious, negative emotional beliefs (Schemas) of:
- Attachment Domain: Domain I
- Abandonment & Instability
- Shame & Defectiveness
- Emotional Deprivation
- Impaired Autonomy and Performance: Domain II
- Dependence & Incompetence
- Vulnerability to Harm and Illness
- Enmeshment & Underdeveloped Self
- Failure to Achieve
- Other Directedness: Domain IV
- Self-Subjugation
- Self-Sacrifice
- Approval Seeking & Recognition Seeking
- Attachment Domain: Domain I
- The recognition and replacement of Dysfunctional Behaviors (”Modes”) such as
- Surrender compliance modes of not standing up for yourself
- Avoidance modes, especially around avoiding your own explorations and self-assertion
- Overcompensation modes
- Correcting metacognitive (mentalization) deficits
- Better emotional regulation techniques especially for difficulty discussions with loved ones
- Better identification and understanding of your present moment experience (mindfulness) especially as it relates to anxious-preoccupied mental states.
- Better ability to make meaning out of your life in such a way to facilitate compassion, acceptance, and healing.
- Learning to balance emotional and cognitive perspectives at the same time
- Learning to hold the other’s “mind in mind”
- Learning to hold one’s own self in mind (valuing your own perspectives and desires)
- Correcting non-cooperative speech patterns – Drawing from the Adult Attachment Interview and Grice’s Maxims of cooperative speech:
- Learning to monitor what is and is not relevant to the conversation
- Learning to monitor what is and is not an appropriate amount of time to ‘hold onto the conversational turn’ before turning it over to your conversation partner
- Learning to monitor your speech so that it is clear and easily understood by your conversation partner
- Learn to own and value your own desires
- That “what you want matters.”
- Differentiation of sincere concern and compassion from self-sacrifice and self-subjugation
- Breaking free from approval and recognition seeks & feeling internally validated
- Differentiating shame, guilt, and healthy remorse
- Healthy Self Development vs Enmeshment
- Attachment Theory (Bowlby, Ainsworth, et al)
- Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (Brown, et al)
- Inner Child Work (Bradshaw, et al)
- Schema Therapy (Young, et al)
- Coherence Therapy (Ecker, et al)
- Mentalization-Based Treatment (Fonagy, et al)
- Metacognitive Therapy (DiMaggio, et al.)
- Buddhist Visualization Practices
- Mindfulness Practice
Who is this For
This program is for those of us who...
- People who have Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment or anxious-preoccupied features
- Are looking to improve our psychological health, especially if we have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results
- Have problems with emotional independence, exploration and sense of self (working through enmeshment)
- Want to work through clinginess
- Learn to set better boundaries
- Difficulties with intimate relationships
- Want to understand the early foundations of our psychological development
- Have had trouble consolidating gains in meditation practice in spite of dedicated meditation practice
- Have difficulties with emotional regulation
- You identify as “codependent”
Benefits & Outcomes
These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program
Theoretical Understanding
- A basic understanding of attachment theory.
- Much better understanding of anxious Preoccupied Attachment
- The importance of attachment repair and how to start doing it
- The importance of your personal explorations as a source of meaning in your life and more clarity on how to proceed in life towards those explorations and goals.
- Understanding how insecure attachment forms an important foundation of adult mental health
- A plan for attaining secure attachment
- More understanding of the modes/parts from a schema therapy perspective like:
- Demanding internalized parent voices
- Overcompensation modes like “workaholic mode”, or “self-aggrandizer mode”
- Avoidance detached modes like the “detached self-soother” and the “spaced out fantasy mode”
- Compliant surrender mode
- Vulnerable child mode (which we reparent with the SRM)
- Healthy Adult mode (which results in the vulnerable child getting its needs met)
- Understanding the core schemas of anxious Preoccupied Attachment:
- Abandonment & instability
- Shame & defectiveness
- Emotional Deprivation
- Dependence/Incompetence
- Vulnerability to Harm and Illness
- Enmeshment/Undeveloped Self
- Failure to achieve
- Subjugation
- Self-Sacrifice
- Approval Seeking/Recognition Seeking
Psychological
- A better ability to observe your mind with meta-cognitive awareness as a result of the mentalization exercises peppered through the guided meditations.
- Better able to do emotional regulation on the spot in your daily life with ‘micro-hits’ of meditation
- Less blame of self or others
- Greater understanding and compassion for psychological problems and vulnerabilities that affect you and others.
- Less identification with your psychological maladies and quirks (ego-dystonia with your maladaptive schemas).
- A better ability to observe your mind with meta-cognitive awareness as a result of the mentalization exercises peppered through the guided meditations.
- A very effective way to do emotional regulation on the spot in your daily life with ‘micro-hits’ of the SRM meditation
- Understanding of and compassion towards your parts/modes and needs.
- A more coherent and realistic understanding of the role your childhood experiences had in producing your adult personality.
For your relationships
- Understanding how attachment conditioning unconsciously drives your relationship behaviors
- And how to remedy them.
- Greater valuing of attachment itself.
- Better understanding of relationship dynamics
- Feeling more empowered to set healthy boundaries
Included Files:
Introduction to Attachment Theory and Preoccupied Attachment |
1h 29m |
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|
32m |
|
23m |
Memory Reconsolidation and the Primary Attachment Schemas |
1h 23m |
|
28m |
|
30m |
Troubleshooting and Coping Modes |
2h 33m |
|
41m |
|
34m |
The Adult Attachment Interview |
1h 12m |
|
38m |
|
25m |
Metacognition |
1h 24m |
|
51m |
|
33m |
Correcting the Relationship Traps of Preoccupied Attachment |
1h 14m |
|
15m |
|
16m |
|
7m |
|
8m |
|
6m |
|
9m |
|
10m |
|
10m |
Guilt vs Compassion |
1h 19m |
|
12m |
|
12m |
|
15m |
|
9m |
|
23m |
|
23m |
Trauma, Anxiety, and Agency |
1h 22m |
|
20m |
|
15m |
|
23m |
|
25m |
Developing the Healthy Adult Self |
1h 14m |
|
13m |
|
16m |
|
10m |
|
10m |
|
12m |
|
12m |
|
6m |
|
5m |
|
6m |
|
3m |
|
42m |
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Frequently Asked Questions
Self-Paced Courses
Yes, and in fact we highly encouraged you to do both.
By buying this course you receive lifetime access to a collection of videos and guided meditation tracks. These are organized so that there is a progressive order to them, but you can take them as slowly or as quickly as you'd like, and you can always view the same content again.
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You can download and keep this course forever and watch it at your own pace as many times as you wish. There is no live Q&A section.
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Description
Heal your Anxious Attachment
This course is a deep dive into working through features of Anxious Attachment. You will be equipped with the knowledge and meditation practices to start the healing process from Anxious Attachment to Earned Secure Attachment.
The primary modality is guided, visualization meditation that uses “perfect nurturers” to reparent our inner child. This is done to create emotionally corrective experiences. These emotionally corrective experiences bring about memory reconsolidation, what Bruce Ecker calls “transformational change”.
In addition to the attachment repair meditations with the perfect nurturers, there will be exercises to recognize our particular preoccupied patterns in daily life, bring them to consciousness, and repattern them.
This program is for you if you want to work on your:
- Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment
- Emotional regulation abilities
- Relationships with loved ones
- Develop greater assertiveness and exploration skills
This self-paced course covers:
- Repatterning the core, unconscious, negative emotional beliefs (Schemas) of:
- Attachment Domain: Domain I
- Abandonment & Instability
- Shame & Defectiveness
- Emotional Deprivation
- Impaired Autonomy and Performance: Domain II
- Dependence & Incompetence
- Vulnerability to Harm and Illness
- Enmeshment & Underdeveloped Self
- Failure to Achieve
- Other Directedness: Domain IV
- Self-Subjugation
- Self-Sacrifice
- Approval Seeking & Recognition Seeking
- Attachment Domain: Domain I
- The recognition and replacement of Dysfunctional Behaviors (”Modes”) such as
- Surrender compliance modes of not standing up for yourself
- Avoidance modes, especially around avoiding your own explorations and self-assertion
- Overcompensation modes
- Correcting metacognitive (mentalization) deficits
- Better emotional regulation techniques especially for difficulty discussions with loved ones
- Better identification and understanding of your present moment experience (mindfulness) especially as it relates to anxious-preoccupied mental states.
- Better ability to make meaning out of your life in such a way to facilitate compassion, acceptance, and healing.
- Learning to balance emotional and cognitive perspectives at the same time
- Learning to hold the other’s “mind in mind”
- Learning to hold one’s own self in mind (valuing your own perspectives and desires)
- Correcting non-cooperative speech patterns – Drawing from the Adult Attachment Interview and Grice’s Maxims of cooperative speech:
- Learning to monitor what is and is not relevant to the conversation
- Learning to monitor what is and is not an appropriate amount of time to ‘hold onto the conversational turn’ before turning it over to your conversation partner
- Learning to monitor your speech so that it is clear and easily understood by your conversation partner
- Learn to own and value your own desires
- That “what you want matters.”
- Differentiation of sincere concern and compassion from self-sacrifice and self-subjugation
- Breaking free from approval and recognition seeks & feeling internally validated
- Differentiating shame, guilt, and healthy remorse
- Healthy Self Development vs Enmeshment
This meditation course draws on:
- Attachment Theory (Bowlby, Ainsworth, et al)
- Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (Brown, et al)
- Inner Child Work (Bradshaw, et al)
- Schema Therapy (Young, et al)
- Coherence Therapy (Ecker, et al)
- Mentalization-Based Treatment (Fonagy, et al)
- Metacognitive Therapy (DiMaggio, et al.)
- Buddhist Visualization Practices
- Mindfulness Practice
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