This is a digital Self-Paced Course

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Download contains:

  • 9 video lectures, 10 hours total
  • 59 guided meditations, 12 hours total

Overview

This Self-Paced Course will equip you with the knowledge and meditation practices to start the healing process from Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment to Earned Secure Attachment.

The primary modality is guided, visualization meditation that uses “perfect nurturers” to reparent our inner child. This is done to create emotionally corrective experiences. These emotionally corrective experiences bring about memory reconsolidation, what Bruce Ecker calls “transformational change”.

In addition to the attachment repair meditations with the perfect nurturers, there will be exercises to recognize our particular preoccupied patterns daily life, bring them to consciousness, and repattern them.

In this course we will cover

  • Repatterning the core, unconscious, negative emotional beliefs (Schemas) of:
    • Attachment Domain: Domain I
      • Abandonment & Instability
      • Shame & Defectiveness
      • Emotional Deprivation
    • Impaired Autonomy and Performance: Domain II
      • Dependence & Incompetence
      • Vulnerability to Harm and Illness
      • Enmeshment & Underdeveloped Self
      • Failure to Achieve
    • Other Directedness: Domain IV
      • Self-Subjugation
      • Self-Sacrifice
      • Approval Seeking & Recognition Seeking
  • The recognition and replacement of Dysfunctional Behaviors (”Modes”) such as
    • Surrender compliance modes of not standing up for yourself
    • Avoidance modes, especially around avoiding your own explorations and self-assertion
    • Overcompensation modes: controlling behaviors etc
  • Correcting metacognitive (mentalization) deficits
    • Better emotional regulation techniques especially for difficulty discussions with loved ones
    • Better identification and understanding of your present moment experience (mindfulness) especially as it relates to anxious-preoccupied mental states.
    • Better ability to make meaning out of your life in such a way to facilitate compassion, acceptance, and healing (taking the pro-symptom position).
    • Learning to balance emotional and cognitive perspectives at the same time
    • Learning to hold the other’s “mind in mind”
    • Learning to hold one’s own self in mind (valuing your own perspectives and desires)
  • Correcting non-cooperative speech patterns – Drawing from the Adult Attachment Interview and Grice’s Maxims of cooperative speech:
    • Learning to monitor what is and is not relevant to the conversation
    • Learning to monitor what is and is not an appropriate amount of time to ‘hold onto the conversational turn’ before turning it over to your conversation partner
    • Learning to monitor your speech so that it is clear and easily understood by your conversation partner
  • Learn to own and value your own desires
    • That “what you want matters.”
    • Differentiation of sincere concern and compassion from self-sacrifice and self-subjugation (guilt inducing parent voice)
    • Breaking free from approval and recognition seeks & feeling internally validated
    • Differentiating shame, guilt, and healthy remorse
    • Healthy Self Development vs Enmeshment

This meditation course draws on:

  • Attachment Theory (Bowlby, Ainsworth, et al)
  • Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (Brown, et al)
  • Inner Child Work (Bradshaw, et al)
  • Schema Therapy (Young, et al)
  • Coherence Therapy (Ecker, et al)
  • Mentalization-Based Treatment (Fonagy, et al)
  • Metacognitive Therapy (DiMaggio, et al.)
  • Buddhist Visualization Practices
  • Mindfulness Practice

Who is this For

This program is for those of us who...

  • People who have Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment or anxious-preoccupied features
  • Are looking to improve our psychological health, especially if we have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results
  • Have problems with emotional independence, exploration and sense of self (working through enmeshment)
  • Want to work through clinginess
  • Learn to set better boundaries
  • Difficulties with intimate relationships
  • Want to understand the early foundations of our psychological development
  • Have had trouble consolidating gains in meditation practice in spite of dedicated meditation practice
  • Have difficulties with emotional regulation
  • You identify as “codependent”

Benefits & Outcomes

These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program

Theoretical Understanding

  • A basic understanding of attachment theory.
  • Much better understanding of anxious Preoccupied Attachment
  • The importance of attachment repair and how to start doing it
  • The importance of your personal explorations as a source of meaning in your life and more clarity on how to proceed in life towards those explorations and goals.
  • Understanding how insecure attachment forms an important foundation of adult mental health
  • A plan for attaining secure attachment
  • More understanding of the modes/parts from a schema therapy perspective like:
    • Demanding internalized parent voices
    • Overcompensation modes like “workaholic mode”, or “self-aggrandizer mode”
    • Avoidance detached modes like the “detached self-soother” and the “spaced out fantasy mode”
    • Compliant surrender mode
    • Vulnerable child mode (which we reparent with the SRM)
    • Healthy Adult mode (which results in the vulnerable child getting its needs met)
  • Understanding the core schemas of anxious Preoccupied Attachment:
    • Abandonment & instability
    • Shame & defectiveness
    • Emotional Deprivation
    • Dependence/Incompetence
    • Vulnerability to Harm and Illness
    • Enmeshment/Undeveloped Self
    • Failure to achieve
    •  Subjugation
    •  Self-Sacrifice
    • Approval Seeking/Recognition Seeking

Psychological

  • A better ability to observe your mind with meta-cognitive awareness as a result of the mentalization exercises peppered through the guided meditations.
  • Better able to do emotional regulation on the spot in your daily life with ‘micro-hits’ of meditation
  • Less blame of self or others
  • Greater understanding and compassion for psychological problems and vulnerabilities that affect you and others.
  • Less identification with your psychological maladies and quirks (ego-dystonia with your maladaptive schemas).
  • A better ability to observe your mind with meta-cognitive awareness as a result of the mentalization exercises peppered through the guided meditations.
  • A very effective way to do emotional regulation on the spot in your daily life with ‘micro-hits’ of the SRM meditation
  • Understanding of and compassion towards your parts/modes and needs.
  • A more coherent and realistic understanding of the role your childhood experiences had in producing your adult personality.

For your relationships

  • Understanding how attachment conditioning unconsciously drives your relationship behaviors
  • And how to remedy them.
  • Greater valuing of attachment itself.
  • Better understanding of relationship dynamics
  • Feeling more empowered to set healthy boundaries

Included Files:

1

Introduction to Preoccupied Attachment and Using Meditation to Heal

Introduction to Preoccupied Attachment and Using Meditation to Heal

Video
79 mins

Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement

Meditation
18 mins

Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement

Meditation
24 mins
2

Memory Reconsolidation and the Preoccupied Attachment Schemas

Memory Reconsolidation and the Preoccupied Attachment Schemas

Video
70 mins

On the Path with the Perfect Nurturers

Meditation
13 mins

Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement on a Walk

Meditation
15 mins

Schema Repatterning Meditation

Meditation
25 mins

Schema Repatterning Meditation

Meditation
32 mins
3

Coping Modes

Coping Modes

Video
74 mins

Psychoeducational Meditation on the Coping Modes

Meditation
6 mins

Psychoeducational Meditation on the Coping Modes

Meditation
5 mins

Mentalizing the Modes with Confrontation Scene

Meditation
36 mins

Mentalizing the Modes with Confrontation Scene

Meditation
31 mins

Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement

Meditation
5 mins
4

The Adult Attachment Interview

The Adult Attachment Interview

Video
69 mins

Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement on Containment and Agency

Meditation
11 mins

Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement on Containment and Agency

Meditation
8 mins

Mentalizing the Modes

Meditation
26 mins

Mentalizing the Modes

Meditation
25 mins
5

Metacognition

Metacognition

Video
65 mins

Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement

Meditation
6 mins

On the Path with the Perfect Nurturers

Meditation
4 mins

On the Path with the Perfect Nurturers

Meditation
6 mins

Mentalizing the Modes with Psychoeducational Emphasis on Metacognitive Skills

Meditation
23 mins

Mentalizing the Modes with Psychoeducational Component

Meditation
27 mins
6

Correcting the Relationship Traps of Preoccupied Attachment

Correcting the Relationship Traps of Preoccupied Attachment

Video
68 mins

Psychoeducational Meditation on the Coping Modes

Meditation
6 mins

Educational meditation on metacognition of mental states

Meditation
15 mins

Boundary Setting

Meditation
10 mins

Boundary Setting

Meditation
7 mins

What You Want Matters

Meditation
10 mins

What You Want Matters

Meditation
8 mins

Meditation on Helplessness

Meditation
7 mins

Meditation on Helplessness

Meditation
9 mins

Concern for Others

Meditation
7 mins

Concern for Others

Meditation
5 mins
7

Guilt vs Compassion

Guilt vs Compassion

Video
70 mins

Feeling Safe with Your Perfect Nurturers

Meditation
8 mins

Feeling Safe with Your Perfect Nurturers

Meditation
11 mins

Distinguishing Guilt and Compassion

Meditation
9 mins

Distinguishing Guilt and Compassion

Meditation
11 mins

Undoing Preoccupied Attachment

Meditation
11 mins

Undoing Preoccupied Attachment

Meditation
12 mins

Confronting Your Guilt Inducing Critic

Meditation
21 mins

Confronting Your Guilt Inducing Critic

Meditation
21 mins
8

Trauma, Anxiety, and Agency

Trauma, Anxiety, and Agency

Video
82 mins

Short Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement

Meditation
6 mins

Short Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement

Meditation
8 mins

Short Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement

Meditation
5 mins

Taking Back Agency

Meditation
18 mins

Taking Back Agency

Meditation
17 mins

Confidence and Trust

Meditation
18 mins

Confidence and Trust

Meditation
19 mins
9

Developing the Healthy Adult Self

Developing the Healthy Adult Self

Video
47 mins

Basic Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement

Meditation
6 mins

Basic Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement

Meditation
4 mins

Safety and Exploration

Meditation
7 mins

Safety and Exploration

Meditation
9 mins

Developing Assertiveness

Meditation
8 mins

Developing Assertiveness

Meditation
6 mins

Self Definition

Meditation
8 mins

Sense of Purpose

Meditation
11 mins

Sense of Agency

Meditation
7 mins

Self Esteem

Meditation
6 mins

Self Esteem

Meditation
8 mins

Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement with Positive Focus

Meditation
7 mins

Schema Repatterning Meditation on Anger at Parents

Meditation
28 mins

Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement

Meditation
18 mins
  • 9 video lectures, 10 hours total
  • 59 guided meditations extracted as .mp3s, 12 hours total

Frequently Asked Questions

Self-Paced Courses

Yes, and in fact we highly encouraged you to do both.
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Once you've completed your purchase, you'll get a link to download the course. You can then view the audio or video files from your laptop, desktop, smartphone, or any devices of your own choice. There is no limit to how many devices you can access the course from.
You can download and keep this course forever and watch it at your own pace as many times as you wish. There is no live Q&A section.

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Heal your Anxious Attachment

This course is a deep dive into working through features of Anxious Attachment. You will be equipped with the knowledge and meditation practices to start the healing process from Anxious Attachment to Earned Secure Attachment.

The primary modality is guided, visualization meditation that uses “perfect nurturers” to reparent our inner child. This is done to create emotionally corrective experiences. These emotionally corrective experiences bring about memory reconsolidation, what Bruce Ecker calls “transformational change”.

In addition to the attachment repair meditations with the perfect nurturers, there will be exercises to recognize our particular preoccupied patterns in daily life, bring them to consciousness, and repattern them.

 

This program is for you if you want to work on your:

  • Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment
  • Emotional regulation abilities
  • Relationships with loved ones
  • Develop greater assertiveness and exploration skills
heal anxious attachment

 

This self-paced course covers:

  • Repatterning the core, unconscious, negative emotional beliefs (Schemas) of:
    • Attachment Domain: Domain I
      • Abandonment & Instability
      • Shame & Defectiveness
      • Emotional Deprivation
    • Impaired Autonomy and Performance: Domain II
      • Dependence & Incompetence
      • Vulnerability to Harm and Illness
      • Enmeshment & Underdeveloped Self
      • Failure to Achieve
    • Other Directedness: Domain IV
      • Self-Subjugation
      • Self-Sacrifice
      • Approval Seeking & Recognition Seeking
  • The recognition and replacement of Dysfunctional Behaviors (”Modes”) such as
    • Surrender compliance modes of not standing up for yourself
    • Avoidance modes, especially around avoiding your own explorations and self-assertion
    • Overcompensation modes
  • Correcting metacognitive (mentalization) deficits
    • Better emotional regulation techniques especially for difficulty discussions with loved ones
    • Better identification and understanding of your present moment experience (mindfulness) especially as it relates to anxious-preoccupied mental states.
    • Better ability to make meaning out of your life in such a way to facilitate compassion, acceptance, and healing.
    • Learning to balance emotional and cognitive perspectives at the same time
    • Learning to hold the other’s “mind in mind”
    • Learning to hold one’s own self in mind (valuing your own perspectives and desires)
  • Correcting non-cooperative speech patterns – Drawing from the Adult Attachment Interview and Grice’s Maxims of cooperative speech:
    • Learning to monitor what is and is not relevant to the conversation
    • Learning to monitor what is and is not an appropriate amount of time to ‘hold onto the conversational turn’ before turning it over to your conversation partner
    • Learning to monitor your speech so that it is clear and easily understood by your conversation partner
  • Learn to own and value your own desires
    • That “what you want matters.”
    • Differentiation of sincere concern and compassion from self-sacrifice and self-subjugation
    • Breaking free from approval and recognition seeks & feeling internally validated
    • Differentiating shame, guilt, and healthy remorse
    • Healthy Self Development vs Enmeshment

This meditation course draws on:

  • Attachment Theory (Bowlby, Ainsworth, et al)
  • Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (Brown, et al)
  • Inner Child Work (Bradshaw, et al)
  • Schema Therapy (Young, et al)
  • Coherence Therapy (Ecker, et al)
  • Mentalization-Based Treatment (Fonagy, et al)
  • Metacognitive Therapy (DiMaggio, et al.)
  • Buddhist Visualization Practices
  • Mindfulness Practice

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