This is a digital Self-Paced Course

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Download contains:

  • 4 video lectures, 4 hours total
  • 7 guided meditations, 5 hours total


This Self-Paced Course will help us to first identify our parts (schema-modes).  Then we’ll use mentalization (meta-cognitive) exercises to gain insight and perspective into our parts:

  • What negative felt-beliefs underlie them
    • beliefs about self
    • beliefs about world/others
  • What caused these negative beliefs in childhood
  • How the different parts interact with the rest of our personality
  • How and when these parts obstruct our life,
  • We’ll also develop motivation to do the deep work to address them

We take the view that unmet childhood needs cause the negative beliefs and expectations.  These unmet needs then form into fixed, felt-sense beliefs (schemas) that function like a lens and color 1) how we see ourselves and the world and 2) how we feel we must respond to the world in order to get our needs met.

The pain of these negative felt-beliefs brings about and fuels the maladaptive parts (modes, symptoms) .

To heal the parts (neurotic behaviors) we heal the underlying negative felt-sense beliefs.  (These are often attachment wounds).  To heal these negative felt beliefs and attachment wounds we create imaginal scenes in which we have what Leslie Greenberg calls “emotionally corrective experiences”.  That positive experience remaps over the old negative felt-belief bringing about permanent change.  By healing the underlying negative felt-belief we eliminate the need for the maladaptive part (neurotic symptom/behavior).

We’ll use visualizations of a “Perfect Nurturer” to create the emotionally corrective experience.

This is how we heal.

We will use guided meditation to bring about these emotionally corrective experiences. The practices are also designed to treat insecure attachment.

Drawing from Jeffrey Young’s Schema Therapy, the parts/modes we’ll work on are:

  • Surrender parts
  • Avoidant parts
  • Overcompensation parts
  • Vulnerable child parts
  • Angry child parts
  • Demanding and punitive internalized parent parts (introjects)
  • Healthy adult part
  • Happy and creative child parts


We will start with a brief lecture on

  1. What are felt-sense beliefs (schemas):  how emotional memory is different from cognitive/episodic memory
  2. How these negative felt sense beliefs make up the component parts of insecure attachment
  3. How to bring about deep positive change through permanent memory reconsolidation (Ecker, et al),
  4. How the pain of the negative felt-sense beliefs are what drive the maladaptive parts (modes) and how repatterning the felt-sense beliefs naturally unwind the negative parts.
  5. How mentalization (meta cognition, perspective taking, wisdom, etc) also fits in to leading a well adaptive and happy life.

Guided Meditation

The bulk of the program will be guided meditations to

  1. Identify and understand the negative parts and maladaptive felt-beliefs
  2. Heal them with a calibrated corrective experience in the guided visualization meditation.

Methods Used

The content of draws from the Schema Therapy frame work.  Schema Therapy was developed by Jeffrey Young in response to his frustration with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy’s poor results in treating personality disorders (Young, et al, 2003).  We will also draw on Attachment Theory, Bruce Ecker’s model of Emotional Coherence and Memory Reconsolidation, and Ideal Parent Figure Protocol, developed by Dan Brown, which has been found to be effective for moving people with insecure attachment to secure attachment after repeated sessions.


Who is this For

This program is for those of us who...

  • Are looking to improve our psychological health, especially those who have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results.
  • Have problems with exploration and self development, relationships and emotional regulation
  • Want to improve our psychological health
  • Want to understand the early foundations of our psychological development

Benefits & Outcomes

These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program

Theoretical Understanding

  • The importance of your personal explorations as a source for meaning in your life and more clarity on how to proceed in life towards those explorations and goals.
  • Understanding of how insecure attachment and the underlying negative felt-beliefs contribute to serious psychological problems like personality and trauma disorders
  • More understanding of the modes/parts from a schema therapy perspective like:
    • Demanding internalized parent voices
    • Overcompensation modes like “workaholic mode”, or “self-aggrandizer mode”
    • Avoidance detached modes like the “detached self-soother” and the “spaced out fantasy mode”
    • Compliant surrender mode
    • Vulnerable child mode
    • Healthy Adult mode (which results out of the vulnerable child getting its needs met)


  • Less identification with your psychological maladies and quirks (ego-dystonia with your maladaptive schemas).
  • A better ability to observe your mind with meta-cognitive awareness as a result of the mentalization exercises peppered through the guided meditations.
  • Better able to do emotional regulation on the spot in your daily life with ‘micro-hits’ of “Perfect Nurturer” meditation.
  • Less blame of self or others.
  • More understanding and compassion towards your parts/modes and needs.

For your relationships

  • Better appreciation for the importance and value of interpersonal collaboration
  • More valuing of attachment
  • A sense that your need for connection is valid
  • Better understanding of how to nurture others

Included Files:


Introduction and Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement

1h 17m

1.1 Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement


Schemas and Mentalizing the Modes 1

1h 2m

2.1 Mentalizing the Modes 1


Mentalizing the Modes 2


3.1 Mentalizing the Modes 2


Mentalizing the Modes 3


4.1 Mentalizing the Modes 3


4.2 Mentalizing the Avoidance Modes with Chairwork


4.3 Mentalizing the Overcompensation Modes


4.4 Mentalizing the Surrender Modes

  • 4 video lectures, 4 hours total
  • 7 guided meditations extracted as .mp3s, 5 hours total

Frequently Asked Questions

Self-Paced Courses

Yes, and in fact we highly encouraged you to do both.
By buying this course you receive lifetime access to a collection of videos and guided meditation tracks. These are organized so that there is a progressive order to them, but you can take them as slowly or as quickly as you'd like, and you can always view the same content again.
Once you've completed your purchase, you'll get a link to download the course. You can then view the audio or video files from your laptop, desktop, smartphone, or any devices of your own choice. There is no limit to how many devices you can access the course from.
You can download and keep this course forever and watch it at your own pace as many times as you wish. There is no live Q&A section.

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