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The Schema Modes as They Relate to Attachment Styles

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  • Post published:August 16, 2021
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Disclaimer: These are my personal opinions. In this, I am drawing from Jeffrey Young’s work on schema therapy, and attachment theory more generally.

I believe that the attachment styles can be viewed as clusters of schemas and modes; schemas  being beliefs about self and world, and the necessary behaviors (modes) that result from those beliefs. The modes represent the coherent behavioral manifestations of the schemas.

Insecure attachment is associated with impaired emotional self-regulation. The coping modes are those emotional regulation strategies that avoid “an even greater suffering”, as Bruce Ecker says.

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Biology, Evolution, and Love

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  • Post published:February 19, 2021
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I watched “My Octopus Teacher” last night. It was so moving.

John Bowlby theorized that Humans like other primates and mammals seek out proximity to the mother for evolutionary reasons, namely to seek safety. This makes perfect sense. You can build a theory of love, connection, and affection solely on the basis of the evolutionary benefits of proximity explained by attachment theory.

In the film, Craig Foster the main protagonist, states that the highlighted kind of octopus has no relationship with mother or father.

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