Summary of Coherence Therapy
“In short, we had stopped treating the symptom like the work of a demon whom we were trying to drive out of the client’s life. We had focused instead solely…
Tips on Creating a Safe Space for Imaginal Work
These tips on creating a safe space for practice were originally shared by a long-term Attachment Repair student in our Slack community. I wanted to share my process and…
Schema Mode Process diagram
Influenced by this video: Understanding Schema Therapy and schema modes, interview
The Schema Modes as They Relate to Attachment Styles
Disclaimer: These are my personal opinions. In this, I am drawing from Jeffrey Young’s work on schema therapy, and attachment theory more generally. I believe that the attachment styles can…
Schemas as they relate to Attachment Styles
This list is based on my perspective as to how Jeffrey Young’s ‘Early Maladaptive Schemas’ relate to insecure attachment. More info on the 18 schemas here: http://www.schematherapy.com/id73.htm General Insecurity…
How to Care for Yourself After a Retreat and How to Make it Count
Going on retreat can be deeply impactful. It is time spent outside the ordinary rhythms of life and often also outside ordinary states of mind. Coming back after a retreat…
Can you change your attachment style and if so how?
Yes, you can. But, there are many important considerations to keep in mind. Attachment conditioning dictates much of how we behave in relationships, view ourselves, how well we explore our…
How to work through the schemas – step by step
Here is a brief guideline on how to work through the Schemas. Identify which schemas you have. We will have an assessment program available shortly, but until then you can…
Biology, Evolution, and Love
I watched “My Octopus Teacher” last night. It was so moving. John Bowlby theorized that Humans like other primates and mammals seek out proximity to the mother for evolutionary reasons,…
Some notes on the three insecure attachment styles
Another quick note about how attachment theory “blames the mom” for everything. Yes, that’s true on one level. Mom is usually the primary caregiver. And our attachment conditioning comes mostly…