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12th Dec 2022
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Multi-week Online Course
Developing the Healthy Adult
Ego-Strength, Self-Definition, Self-Agency, Stress-Tolerance, Exploration, and Becoming the Secure-Attachment-Figure for Others
8 Week Online Meditation Course- Date: 12th Dec - 6th Feb 2023
- Instructor: Cedric Reeves
- Cost: Sliding scale
Join us for this course 8 week meditation course where we will develop our sense of agency (internal locus of control), self-esteem, our tolerance to stress, our metacognitive skills, and positive attachment states.
The intended outcome is to developed those above mentioned qualities. These qualities are the qualities of Schema Therapy's "Healthy Adult Mode". Moreover, this course will help you think about and structure your own ongoing personal development.
This program is for people who who want to develop their best self and who want greater clarity as to what they want in life.
Who is this for?
- For anyone who wants to go develop a healthier sense of self and who wants to know how to show up in relationship.
- Suitable for anyone new to attachment-work, or is already experienced.
- any attachment style, but is particularly suited to anxious-preoccupied or disorganized (fearful) attachment style.
- For anyone who is willing to do the work to get results
Format
- 8 Week Course: One live 90 minute class per week
- Live Online Sessions: The live sessions will be hosted on Zoom. An email with the zoom links will be sent to you after you have registered.
- Q&A: There will be opportunity to ask questions during the Q&A section.
Attendance & Recordings
- Partial attendance is fine - however you get best results if you attend all sessions.
- Late Starts: You can join even after it has started.
- View at your own pace: The event will be recorded and sent out to registered participants for viewing on your own schedule.
Guided meditation will be the main focus of the program. There will be ample opportunity to ask questions and share whatever you feel comfortable with. There will be no pressure to do so; passive participation is perfectly fine.
Event Date & Time
Start Date:
12th Dec
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End Date:
6th Feb 2023
This course will run twice in order to be accessible to people in different time zones. The content is exactly the same. You will get the access details for both after signing up.
There will be one live 90 minute class per week.
Note: we will take a break on Monday 26th December. The course will resume as usual the following Monday.
Class Schedule
This is the approximate format of each class.
| Duration | Activity |
|---|---|
| 5 mins | Short meditation to settle the mind |
| 10 mins | Review of last week’s class (first class will be introductions instead) |
| 25 mins | Lecture on new material |
| 5 mins | Break |
| 35 mins | Guided meditation related to material just discussed |
| 10 mins | Q&A |
We will be doing deep work. For that reason please feel free to take a break at any point.
What to Expect
Guided meditation will be the main focus of the program. There will be ample opportunity to ask questions and share whatever you feel comfortable with. There will be no pressure to do so; passive participation is perfectly fine.
We plan on running a pilot study on this course. Course participants who sign up before the start date will be given an initial assessment.
That assessment will score their:
- Self-esteem
- Self-directedness (clarity on who you are)
- Self-agency (sense that you can get things done)
- Stress-tolerance
- Felt-sense of safety
- Ability to trust
- General baseline mood
- Ease with attachment
At the end of the course you’ll take the same assessment so that you can chart your progress.
There will also be an optional practice pod that you can join with three to five fellow students in the group.
A commitment to a 30 minute daily meditation practice of the preceding meditations assigned in class is part of the course.
course Overview
This program is suitable for beginners to meditation and healing work.
Our aim in this 8-week meditation course is to develop the strength of the health adult.
The healthy adult can be understood as having two major groupings of positive traits:
1. strength based traits
and
2. attachment/connection based traits
The strength based traits are comprised of (drawing from Jeffrey Young’s ‘healthy adult mode’, Dan Brown’s ‘best self’, and The Third School of Cognitive Therapy’s metacognitive skills)
- Healthy self-definition (knowing who you are and what you are about)
- Assertiveness
- A well developed sense of agency (internal locus of control)
- Well developed ability to explore
- Healthy self esteem
- Metacognitive skills
- Stress tolerance and emotional self-regulation abilities
The attachment based traits of the healthy adult are (drawing form Brown & Elliott 2016 and the Buddhist Brahma Viharas):
- Love towards self and other
- Compassion towards self and other
- Sympathetic joy towards self and other (delight in others & rejoicing in self’s positive qualities)
- Desire to protect others and expectation that loved ones protect self
- Ability to attune to others and the expectation of attunement from others
- Ability to physically comfort and soothe and expectation to receive the same
- Support of explorations of loved ones and expectation of support from them and getting and giving guidance
- Physical and mental entrainment/synchronization with loved ones which creates a sense of belonging
- Ability to trust
- Practicing generosity
The primary aim of this course is to develop underdeveloped positive qualities instead of correcting neurosis. This course should be understood as focused on doing experiential exercises (meditations) drawn from positive psychology, self-psychology, and attachment theory.
What you will get
By the end of this course, you should have better self-esteem, better self-definition, a greater sense of agency, greater stress tolerance, greater access to positive attachment states like love, compassion, and delight in others, and better metacognitive skills. Additionally, the a daily meditation habit will be in place by the end of the course. Moreover, this course will help you think about and structure your own ongoing personal development.
Who this is for
This course is for people who want to develop their both their personal strength and the ability to connect better with others
This course is relevant to all the different attachment styles. However, people with anxious-preoccupied attachment and disorganized (fearful) attachment tend to have poorer self development than people with dismissing-avoidant or secure attachment. Therefore people with anxious preoccupied and disorganized attachment, especially, stand to benefit.
Note: we will take a break on Monday 26th December. The course will resume as usual the following Monday.
This course draws from the following sources:
- Jeffrey Young’s Schema Therapy, especially Dr. Young’s “Healthy Adult Mode“
- Dan Brown’s work on self-development
- Dan Brown and David Elliott’s Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (IPF) / Three Pillars Model
- David Bernstein’s list of characteristics of the Healthy Adult Mode
- The “8 C’s” of Dick Schwartz’s IFS
- Attachment Theory
- Bruce Ecker’s Coherence Therapy
- Mentalization/Metacogntive therapies (Fonagy, DiMaggio, Liotti)
- Buddhist Visualization Meditation
- Buddhist Heart Practices:
- Loving Kindness
- Compassion
- Appreciative Joy
- Equanimity (Equanimous Love)
Course Curriculum
The course is broken up into 8 classes
Lecture Outline
- Self-development (self-definition, agency, stress tolerance, self-esteem)
- Metacognition
- Positive attachment states: be the "good parents" to self, others, and the world
- Perfect Nurturer Reinforcement meditation
- love towards self and other
- compassion towards self and other
- sympathetic joy towards self and other (delight in others & rejoicing in self’s positive qualities)
- desire to protect others and expectation that loved ones protect self
- ability to attune to others and the expectation of attunement from others
- ability to physically comfort and soothe and expectation to receive the same
- support of explorations of loved ones and expectation of support from them and getting and giving guidance
- physical and mental entrainment/synchronization with loved ones which creates a sense of belonging
- Practicing generosity.
What is Metacognition
Seven Skills:
- Interest & curiosity
- Identification
- Differentiation
- Relating Variables
- Integration
- Decentration
- Mastery
Lecture Outline
- Understanding who you are and what your interest / purpose is
- Investigating the negative schema first (lack of self-definition) and then the positive juxtaposition of knowing who we are
Lecture Outline
- Visualization meditation to develop greater self-agency along with tools for coping with inevitable obstacles and stresses on the path
Lecture Outline
- Beginning to develop self-esteem through imagining oneself as a source of happiness for others
Holding high self esteem in situations where it is otherwise difficult.
Lecture Outline
- Delight in others (sympathetic joy) and expectations that others delight in you
- Access to other positive attachment states with others: loving-kindness and compassion
- Assertiveness and having an impact on others
Visualizing:
- others delighting in you
- access to love and compassion from and towards others
- having an impact on others
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Miscellaneous Notes
Please note that his course is an experiential course. A 30 minute daily meditation practice commitment is required.
There will be time for Q&A and spot coaching.
We will be doing deep work. For that reason please feel free to take a break at any point.
Practice Pods
Participants in this course have the option to join a practice pod. This is an informal group of 3-5 students who meet, usually once a week, to listen to a guided meditation, discuss difficulties in practice, and share insights and progress. Connecting with peer learners in this way can keep you motivated, consolidate learning, and create a sense of community.
Who is this for?
This program is for those of us who...
- Want to become more joyous
- Want to enjoy meditation more
- Are looking to improve our psychological health, especially those who have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results.
- Have problems with exploration and self development, relationships and emotional regulation
- Want to optimise our psychological health
- Want to understand the early foundations of our psychological development
Healing Together
Shared interest and social support can make meditation practice, study, and healing much easier. Make friends in the course on the slack channel and invite friends who you think could benefit to participate in the course.
Benefits
These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program
Theoretical Understanding
- Greater understanding and compassion for psychological problems and vulnerabilities that affect you and others.
Psychological
- Less identification with your psychological maladies and quirks (ego-dystonia with your maladaptive schemas).
- A better ability to observe your mind with metacognitive awareness as a result of the mentalization exercises peppered through the guided meditations.
- Better able to do emotional regulation on the spot in your daily life with ‘micro-hits’ of meditation.
- Less blame of self or others.
- More understanding and compassion towards your parts/modes and needs.
For your relationships
- Better appreciation for the importance and value of interpersonal collaboration
Support Structure
- Opportunities to find accountability partners to meditate with
- A sense of camaraderie as a result of seeing how our psychological difficulties are rooted in common experiences that affect us all.
- Slack group with which to discuss and share experiences and consolidate what you are learning