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Multi-week Online Course
Embodying Secure Attachment
Developing the Healthy Adult: Ego-Strength, Self-Definition, Self-Agency, Stress-Tolerance, Exploration, and Becoming the Secure-Attachment-Figure for Others
8 Week Online Meditation Course- Date: 12th Dec - 6th Feb 2023
- Instructor: Cedric Reeves
- Cost: Sliding scale $80 ~ $400
Join us for this course : An 8 week meditation course where we will develop our sense of agency, self-esteem, stress tolerance, and positive attachment states in order to become our 'best selves' and to become a secure attachment figure for others.
The intended outcome is to develop qualities that enhance the "Healthy Adult. Moreover, this course will help you structure your own ongoing personal development path.
This program is for people who want to develop their best-self especially given a background of insecure attachment.
Who is this for?
- For anyone who wants to develop a healthier sense of self and who wants to know how to be a secure attachment figure for others.
- Suitable for anyone new to attachment-work, or is already experienced.
- This course is suited for any attachment style, but is particularly designed to anxious-preoccupied or disorganized (fearful) attachment style.
- For anyone who is willing to do the work to get results (We lay out the path in this course. For best results participants are recommended to do 30 mins of meditaiton a day.)
Format
- Program: One live 90 minute class per week
- Live Online Sessions: The live sessions will be hosted on Zoom. An email with the zoom links will be sent to you after you have registered.
- Q&A: There will be opportunity to ask questions during the Q&A section.
Attendance & Recordings
- Partial attendance is fine - however you get best results if you attend all sessions.
- Late Starts: You can join even after it has started.
- View at your own pace: The event will be recorded and sent out to registered participants for viewing on your own schedule.
Event Date & Time
Start Date:
12th Dec
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End Date:
6th Feb 2023
This course will run twice in order to be accessible to people in different time zones. The content is exactly the same. You will get the access details for both after signing up.
There will be one live 90 minute class per week.
Note: we will take a break on Monday 26th December. The course will resume as usual the following Monday.
Class Schedule
This is the approximate format of each class.
| Duration | Activity |
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| 5 mins | Short meditation to settle the mind |
| 10 mins | Review of last week’s class (first class will be introductions instead) |
| 25 mins | Lecture on new material |
| 5 mins | Break |
| 35 mins | Guided meditation related to material just discussed |
| 10 mins | Q&A |
We will be doing deep work. For that reason please feel free to take a break at any point.
What to Expect
Guided meditation will be the main focus of the program. There will be ample opportunity to ask questions and share whatever you feel comfortable with. There will be no pressure to do so; passive participation is perfectly fine.
How can you can you get to a place of earned secure attachment when you haven’t actually experienced it yourself?
Surely, the path is easier when you know where you are going and what it feels like when you get there.
In this course we will embody the qualities of secure attachment. As a result you will have clarity on what you are trying to cultivate, on the outcome. We start with the end in mind: Earned Secure Attachment
More specifically, this is an 8-week meditation practice course that lays out a path to:
- becoming a secure attachment figure for our intimate relatationships
- developing ego strengths in the “Healthy Adult”
course Overview
This program is suitable for beginners to meditation and healing work.
The aim in this 8-week meditation course is to develop the strength of the Health Adult.
The healthy adult can be understood as having two major sets of positive traits:
- attachment/connection based traits (very relevant to those with dismissing-avoidant attachment and disorganized/fearful
- strength based traits (ego strength) (very relevant to those with anxious preoccupied attachment and disorganized/fearful attachment)
The attachment based traits of the healthy adult are (drawing form Brown & Elliott 2016 and the Buddhist Brahma Viharas):
- Desire to protect others and expectation that loved ones protect you
- Ability to attune to others and the expectation of attunement from others (empathy)
- Ability to physically comfort and soothe and expectation to receive the same
- Support of explorations of loved ones and expectation of support from them and getting and giving guidance
- Physical and mental entrainment/synchronization with loved ones which creates a sense of belonging
- Ability to trust & trustworthiness
- Generosity
- Self-acceptance and acceptance of others
- Forgiveness
The strength based traits are comprised of (drawing from Jeffrey Young’s ‘healthy adult mode’, Dan Brown’s ‘best self’, and The Third School of Cognitive Therapy’s metacognitive skills).
- Healthy self-definition (knowing who you are and what you are about)
- Assertiveness
- A well developed sense of agency (internal locus of control)
- Well developed ability to explore
- Healthy self esteem
- Metacognitive skills (reflective function, mentalizing etc)
- Stress tolerance and emotional self-regulation abilities
- Discernment
What you will gain
By the end of this course, you will have
- better self-esteem
- better self-definition
- a greater sense of agency
- greater stress tolerance
- greater access to positive attachment states; love, compassion, and delight in others
- better metacognitive skills.
- a clear understanding of how best to show up in close relationships and a greater ability to do so
Who this is for
This course is for people who want to develop their both their personal strengths and also become a secure attachment figure for others.
This course is relevant to all three insecure attachment styles: dismissing-avoidant, anxious-preoccupied, and disorganized (fearful) attachment.
Note: we will take a break on Monday 26th December. The course will resume as usual the following Monday.
This course draws from the following sources:
- Jeffrey Young’s Schema Therapy, especially Dr. Young’s “Healthy Adult Mode“
- Dan Brown’s work on self-development
- Dan Brown and David Elliott’s Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (IPF) / Three Pillars Model
- David Bernstein’s list of characteristics of the Healthy Adult Mode
- Ericksonian Hypnosis
- The “8 C’s” of Dick Schwartz’s IFS
- Attachment Theory
- Bruce Ecker’s Coherence Therapy
- Mentalization/Metacogntive therapies (Fonagy, DiMaggio, Liotti)
- Buddhist Visualization Meditation
- Buddhist Heart Practices:
- Loving Kindness
- Compassion
- Appreciative Joy
- Equanimity (Equanimous Love)
Course Curriculum
The course is broken up into 8 classes
Lecture Outline
- Self-development (self-definition, agency, stress tolerance, self-esteem)
- Positive attachment states: be the "good parents" to self, others, and the world
- Meditation Embodying the qualities of secure attachment (Becoming the Secure Attachment Figure))
Primer on Attachment Theory
Starting with the end in mind: experiencing the capacity to be a secure attachment figure makes becoming one much easier.
Reviewing different lists of Secure Attachment and Ego Strengths:
- Traits of secure attachment
- Ego strengths
Lists of Strengths:
- 8 C’s of IFS
- Positive Schemas of George Lockwood
- love towards self and other
- compassion towards self and other
- sympathetic joy towards self and other (delight in others & rejoicing in self’s positive qualities)
- desire to protect others and expectation that loved ones protect self
- ability to attune to others and the expectation of attunement from others
- ability to physically comfort and soothe and expectation to receive the same
- support of explorations of loved ones and expectation of support from them and getting and giving guidance
- physical and mental entrainment/synchronization with loved ones which creates a sense of belonging
- Practicing generosity
- Self-acceptance and acceptance of others
- Forgiveness
Guided meditation going through above list taking via this frame work:
- Discovery of the negative schemas (mistrust, abandonment, misattunement etc)
- Integration of them, seeing how this cam from early childhood experiences and is not due to defectiveness of self.
- Transformation (building up the positive traits listed above) (a Coherence Therapy Framing)
Guided meditation on Self acceptance
What is Metacognition
Seven Skills:
- Interest & curiosity
- Identification
- Differentiation
- Relating Variables
- Integration
- Decentration
- Mastery
Guided meditation for developing metacognitive skills
Lecture Outline
- Understanding who you are and what your interest / purpose is
- Investigating the negative schema first (lack of self-definition) and then the positive juxtaposition of knowing who we are
When we don’t know what we want in life, when we lack a mission in life often depression ensues.
We’ll focus on figuring out who we are and our lifes direction in this class.
Individual qualities of your best-self and strengthening them.
Then we’ll map out your mission in life based on these qualities.
By recognizing and developing these qualities we unwind the “enmeshment & underdeveloped self schema”.
Lecture Outline
- Visualization meditation to develop greater self-agency along with tools for coping with inevitable obstacles and stresses on the path
Learning to plan out your goals and execute them.
Having an impact on
- others
- the material world
Developing better emotional self regulation skills
Understanding how they are the positive opposite of dependence and incompetence and failure to achieve schemas.
Lecture Outline
- Beginning to develop self-esteem through imagining oneself as a source of happiness for others
Being delighted in and thereby develop better self-esteem.
Holding high self esteem in situations where it is otherwise difficult.
Lecture Outline
- Delight in others (sympathetic joy) and expectations that others delight in you
- Access to other positive attachment states with others: loving-kindness and compassion
- Assertiveness and having an impact on others
Brief Course Review
The Pro-Social Self:
- Developing Generosity & Service
- The value of holding aspirational ethics
- The balance and wisdom not to use it as a means to deny your own preferences and desires
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Miscellaneous Notes
Please note that his course is an experiential-exercise focused course. A 30 minute daily meditation practice commitment is required (again we will support you with accountability systems)
There will be time for Q&A and spot coaching during the live event. The Q&A recording will not be made available thereafter. If you do not attend live, you will not have access to the Q&A.
We will be doing deep work. For that reason please feel free to take a break at any point.
Measure your Progress With Before/After Assessments
Attachment Repair is offering this course that not only is entirely focused on healing the root of your attachment issues but also provides objective tools to measure and track your progress.
Healthy Adult Assessment
Participation in this course will give you the option to enrol into our Healthy Adult Assessment. This Assessment is designed to measure some of the most relevant markers of your attachment style and emotional health.
It includes 7 assessments drawn from the established peer-reviewed literature:
- Social Safeness and Pleasure Scale
- Types of Positive Affect Scale
- Experience in Close Relationship Scale (ECR-S)
- Patient Health Questionnaire
- Self-Reassuring Scale
- Rosenburg Self-esteem Scale
- Locus of Control Scale
Before, After, and 3-month Follow-up
The Assessments are a valuable tool for measuring and tracking your progress in the course. By taking a Before measurement at the start of the course and an After measurement when the course ends, you will be able to see the effects of the course and the meditations on your attachment style and emotional health.
Additionally, there will be a Follow-up Assessment 3 months after the course ends to see if any changes have persisted or increased. These objective measures can increase confidence in your ability to direct your healing process and deepen the habit of doing inner work.
These assessments give you a ‘handle’ on your current psychology. This augments the capacity to self-reflect (conceptualize where you stand relative to the measure), and to measure progress which equips you with more self-agency around your self-driven pursuit of greater mental health.
Seeing real change with an objective measure helps build up a real and palpable self-agency about knowing that you can change. Doing Before/After helps fortify this primary objective of self-agency around your own healing.
PDF Report
The results of your assessment will be delivered to you in a PDF report that gives you your scores for each of the measures as well as an explanation of what they mean.
You will get a new report for each stage of the Before/After/Follow-up, to easily compare the results and see how your measure changes over time.
Who is this for?
This program is for those of us who...
- Want to become a secure attachment figure for others
- Want to become a more valuable romantic partner, parent and friend to others
- Want to develop that actual individual traits like
- ability to protect others
- compassion
- forgiveness
- ability to attune
- ability to soothe
- ease with physical closeness
- ability to support others explorations
- delight in others
- ability to lovingly guide others
- generosity
- Want to develop our ego strengths like
- self definition (knowing who you are, knowing what you are about, valuing your own opinions, )
- better agency
- better planing abilities
- better self-esteme
- better stress tolerance
- Are looking to improve our psychological health, especially those who have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results.
- Have problems with exploration and self development, relationships and emotional regulation
Benefits
These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program
Theoretical Understanding
- Understand what is means to show up in a secure way in relationship
- How to develop those skills/abilities/qualities if you don’t have them yet
- What does it mean to develop your own ego strengths and how to do so
- A clear practice path of how to develop your own ego strengths and how to develop into a secure attachment figure for others
Psychological
- A better ability to observe your mind with metacognitive awareness as a result of the mentalization exercises peppered through the guided meditations.
- Better able to do emotional regulation on the spot in your daily life with ‘micro-hits’ of meditation.
- Less blame of self or others.
- More understanding and compassion towards your parts/modes and needs.
For your relationships
- By becoming more secure in terms of how you show up you will feel more confident about yourself as an attachment figure for romantic partners.
- Knowing how to apply the qualities cultivated in the formal meditations in daily life (this isn’t a theory focused course rather a practice and application focused course (we aim for real life character development))
Support Structure
- Opportunities to find accountability partners to meditate with
- A sense of camaraderie around doing wholesome self-development for the benefit of self and others.
- Slack group with which to discuss and share experiences and consolidate what you are learning
Frequently Asked Questions
About Participation
Once you sign up, an email will be sent out to you with a Zoom link. It will allow you to access the live classes. A free Zoom account is necessary, and Zoom needs to be installed on your computer before the event starts.
No, this course is open to anyone, regardless of your familiarity with attachment theory or prior meditation experience.
Yes, there is homework every week.
Optimally you should listen to the meditation recordings (30 min) daily or every other day. However, while it is optimal for you to do it, the value of coming to class and doing meditation in class does not rely on you having done the homework.
You’ll be assigned to a practice pod of 3 to 5 fellow students. It’s recommended that the practice pod sessions be spent listening to the meditation, discussing practice, and challenges.
Signing up late is perfectly fine. Because the course is practice-oriented, you should catch up by doing the practices in your own time. The recordings of the sessions you were not able to attend will be made available to you. You will be able to catch up on the material and do the meditations in your own time.
Yes, and in fact we highly encouraged you to do both.
The course has been designed for live attendance. All recordings are made available to you every week. It allows you to watch the recordings at home and do the meditations in your own time.
Payment Questions
If for any reason you aren’t satisfied, simply contact us and we will send you a full refund.
If you are experiencing troubles with your payment, simply contact us and we will get back to you as soon as we can.
Technical Questions
The recordings will be made available as video and also as audio-only.
If you are experiencing any technical issues relating to accessing the material or live sessions, please get in touch with us. We will get back to you as soon as possible.
We can be reached with our online contact form.
Testimonials
This is what participants of prior courses have to say:
Antoine
I’m very happy about the Embodying Secure Attachment Course. It’s good to have a course for people who are well on the way of healing their wounds. Comes at the perfect time for me.
Anon
I’m sure this will seem out of the blue to you, but I was just thinking of things I am thankful for and thought of you and the two Attachment Repair courses of yours I had the pleasure to participate in. I just wanted to say a very heartfelt thank you. I want you to know I really appreciated the kindness and effort you put into that work, and into responding to all of our questions. My exposure to your teaching has been immensely helpful for me.
Allison
I am enjoying the Healing Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment course so much! It's blowing my mind, and that's after decades of amazing therapy, EMDR, attachment couples therapy, neurofeedback, inner child nurturing, self-compassion, and many other profound growth experiences. I’m so delighted by how much I'm getting out of the course. Feels like it's a missing piece for me that is so healing. Thank you !
Christine
Cedric is an amazing meditation teacher, and this course really changed a lot for me. I really liked his authentic, refreshing approach and the way he combines scientific research with A LOT of practical exercises to reprogram the mind. Over the time of the course, I could literally watch my self esteem and my motivation to get things done grow. The course really motivated me to get going with my business and get things done, because I started to believe that I can actually do it.
Dani
Thank you for continuing to make these classes. When I am able to attend, they make a really positive contribution to my mental health :)
Johnny
I love your offerings. Keep them coming. You have a good capacity to make people feel seen – and also show great respect for us as individuals – in itself that is an healing factor in being in courses of yours! Your humbleness and humour – make every call a killer. Rock on. I like learning about these subjects! Feels very helpful in understanding my problems/reason to part of my suffering. I feel I have grown during the course so far – and or moving in a better direction.
Allyson
THANK YOU!! this is powerful for me, so thank you thank you for sharing your insight. I like how you really balance the “just do the work” attitude with sooo much compassion and empathy for how hard it is. Now I know how to use the immense power of my imagination to heal my most fundamental body-mind-soul mechanisms and have a more joyful, loving life.
Chelsea
I gained an ability to self soothe, meet my needs for validation and feeling seen/heard (which were often unmet in childhood), an overall feeling like I am less alone in my work of healing my attachment. I realize I benefit greatly from an 8 week course with a weekly meeting, I am able to do daily meditations on my own and feel supported in this routine with the weekly meetings. I feel I am actively and consistently working on my attachment repair by being part of a longer course (as opposed to a weekend workshop).
N.P.
Loved the course and loved this kind of emotional work. Look forward to doing more that you offer. Content was excellent. Meditation around Schema modes went quite deep and uncovered difficult emotions. Doing micro hits has improved some situations that would have gone worse.
Registration
This event is offered on a sliding scale to be accessible to anyone.
This event has ended, but you can still register to get the recordings.
They will be emailed to you as soon as they are ready - within a week of the event.
Scholarships: Inability to pay is no barrier to taking the class. Please fill in this form if you need a scholarship and we will accommodate you.
Refund policy: If you are dissatisfied for whatever reason, simply let us know and we will issue you a full refund, no questions asked.
Scholarships: Inability to pay is no barrier to taking the class. Please fill in this form if you need a scholarship and we will accommodate you.
Refund policy: If you are dissatisfied for whatever reason, simply let us know and we will issue you a full refund, no questions asked.
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Please note: What is on offer here is meditation coaching, not psychotherapy or counseling.
Hi,
Really interested in the course but cannot make Monday evenings at all (London time). Will you be holding the course on any other days in the future?
Thanks,
Sophie
Hi Sophie, I’m afraid the course will only be on Mondays for the foreseeable future. You might like to enroll and follow along with the recordings. You’ll still be able to join a practice pod and meet with other students if you want. Alternatively you could check out the upcoming Healing with Sublime Emotions course, which will be on Wednesdays.
Please let me know if you plan to hold any future 8 week workshops after this one as I’m not able to attend this one and I think it would be beneficial.
Hi Apryl, we’re regularly running multi-week courses. The next one that will be 8 weeks long is planned for May. If that’s too long to wait, you can register for this one and follow the course with the recordings and still take part in a practice pod with other students. If you’re not already on our newsletter, that’s where you can keep advised of upcoming events.
Hi, I’m interested in joining this course. I could attend 4 live sessions. Will I be able to get recordings of the earlier sessions that I missed right away so I can catch up? Also, I am on disability and unemployed. Is there any way that I can pay less than $80 since I’m missing half the live sessions? Lastly, if I join in time for January 9, will I be placed in a pod? Thank you so much!
Hi Laurie, yes as soon as you register you’ll get access to the Course Resources page which hosts recordings, meditations, and slides of all sessions so far. You’ll find a link to the form to join a Practice Pod there.
Feel free to fill out the scholarship form and, if you are able to donate, you can do here: https://attachmentrepair.com/donations