• Date: Saturday, 18th Nov 2023
  • Instructor: Cedric Reeves
  • Cost: Sliding scale
    $30 ~ $120

Join us for this workshop where we will take an attachment repair view dissociation, numbness, and the detached protector mode which is often hard to step out of and see correctly.

The intended outcome is to heal the maladaptive coping mode of the 'detached protector'.

This program is for people who struggle with dissociation, numbness, detachment, emotional inhibition, dismissing-avoidant attachment, etc.

Who is this for?

  • For anyone who wants to go from insecure to secure attachment.
  • Suitable for anyone new to attachment-work, or is already experienced.
  • People with Dismissing Attachment.
  • For anyone who is willing to do the work to get results.

Format

  • Program: 3 sessions of 60 minutes each.
  • Live Online Sessions: The live sessions will be hosted on Zoom. An email with the zoom links will be sent to you after you have registered.
  • Q&A: There will be opportunity to ask questions during the Q&A section.

Attendance & Recordings

  • Partial attendance is fine - however you get best results if you attend all sessions.
  • Late Starts: You can join even after it has started.
  • View at your own pace: The event will be recorded and sent out to registered participants for viewing on your own schedule.

Event Date & Time

This workshop will run twice in order to be accessible to people in different time zones. The content is exactly the same. You will get the access details for both after signing up.

18th Nov 2023

Start and end times
  • New York 9:00 to 12:30 pm 🌞 (EST)
  • Chicago 8:00 to 11:30 am 🌞 (CDT)
  • Denver 7:00 to 10:30 am 🌞 (MDT)
  • San Francisco 6:00 to 9:30 am 🌞 (PT)
  • Brasilia 10:00 to 1:30 pm (BRT)
  • London 2:00 to 5:30 pm 🌞 (BST)
  • Paris 3:00 to 6:30 pm 🌞 (CEST)
  • Moscow 4:00 to 7:30 pm (MSK)
  • Delhi 6:30 to 10:00 pm (IST)

+12h

  • Wellington 1:00 to 4:30 am (NZST)
  • Perth 9:00 to 12:30 am (AWST)
  • Sydney 11:00 to 2:30 am (AEST)

workshop Overview

This program is suitable for beginners to meditation and healing work.

One of the primary means of coping with emotional deprivation and poor care in childhood is the “Detached Protector Mode”. It is a core feature and coping mode of dismissing-avoidant attachment.

This mode helps us manage pain by withdrawing from it and by making our emotional experience seem less important. That helps us accept situations of mis-attunement, not being comforted, and even endangerment. This is something we learn in childhood.

The Detached Protector Mode overlaps greatly with maladaptive day dreaming, dissociation, ‘checking out’, being emotionally unavailable, numbing out, blocking out your feelings, self-gaslighting, and even discomfort with emotional closeness.

In this workshop, we will take the position that the detached protector is a ‘functional symptom’ which helped us cope with emotional deprivation as children, but now causes us difficulties as adults.

By seeing and feeling the utility and ‘sanity’ of this mode we will move towards letting go of shame associated it.

At the same time, to be balanced, we’ll study and acknowledge how the Detached Protector Mode hurts our quality of life and ability to connect with others as adults

In this course we’ll focus on doing experiential work on this mode. This approach is based in the belief that to heal deeply rooted neurosis that experiential work is needed. Simple psycho-education or more superficial interventions like cognitive behavioral therapy don’t work, usually. We will do this work through guided meditation.

In this course we’ll do the following exercises/meditations:

  1. Parts work on the detached protector mode (chair work) (Pro-symptom and Anti-symptom positions).
  2. Mentalizing the Modes Meditation on the detached protector mode.
  3. Schema repatterning meditation on the ’emotional-inhibition schema’.

This course draw from:

  1. attachment theory
  2. schema therapy
  3. ideal parent figure protocol
  4. coherence therapy
  5. metacognitive interpersonal therapy

Please note that this course is a meditation course, not group therapy or counseling.

The facilitator, Cedric Reeves, will teach this course as a meditation teacher and not in any other capacity.

 

Miscellaneous Notes

There will be time for Q&A and spot coaching during the live event. The Q&A recording will not be made available thereafter. If you do not attend live, you will not have access to the Q&A.

We will be doing deep work. For that reason please feel free to take a break at any point.

Walking Meditation

There will be a few breaks for walking meditation, and brief instructions will be given.

Who is this for?

This program is for those of us who...

  • have problems with experiencing jealousy of others
  • want to engage more authentically with people we are close with

Healing Together

Shared interest and social support can make meditation practice, study, and healing much easier.

Make friends in the course on the slack channel and invite friends who you think could benefit to participate in the course.

Benefits

These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program

Theoretical Understanding

  • See how jealousy manifests as a product of the internal working model of attachment.
  • Understand the roots of jealousy as originating in maladaptive views of self and the world.

Psychological

  • Lessening feelings of jealousy and moving into more secure appreciation of others.
  • Healing traits of insecure attachment.

For your relationships

  • Relating to others more directly, instead of through the distortions of a jealous mental state.
  • Increased calmness to let partners and friends be themselves, brining about more closeness.

Support Structure

  • Opportunities to find accountability partners to meditate with.
  • A sense of camaraderie as a result of seeing how our psychological difficulties are rooted in common experiences that affect us all.
  • Slack group with which to discuss and share experiences and consolidate what you are learning.

Frequently Asked Questions

About Participation

Once you sign up, an email will be sent out to you with a Zoom link. It will allow you to access the live classes. A free Zoom account is necessary, and Zoom needs to be installed on your computer before the event starts.
No, this course is open to anyone, regardless of your familiarity with attachment theory or prior meditation experience.
Yes, and in fact we highly encouraged you to do both.

Payment Questions

If for any reason you aren’t satisfied, simply contact us and we will send you a full refund.
If you are experiencing troubles with your payment, simply contact us and we will get back to you as soon as we can.
There are other payment methods listed on our donations page. Otherwise contact us for other options. If you lack any ability to make online payments, let us know and we can sign you up for free.

Technical Questions

The recordings will be available for 3 more months after the course ends.
The recordings will be made available as video and also as audio-only.

If you are experiencing any technical issues relating to accessing the material or live sessions, please get in touch with us. We will get back to you as soon as possible.

We can be reached with our online contact form.

Testimonials

This is what participants of prior workshops have to say:

Dani

Thank you for continuing to make these classes. When I am able to attend, they make a really positive contribution to my mental health :)

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Please note: What is on offer here is meditation coaching, not psychotherapy or counseling.