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Attachment Theory & Repair

A Deep Dive into Healing our Childhood Conditioning with Schema Repatterning Meditation

8 Week Online Meditation Course

This meditation course is aimed at people with insecure attachment. Many people with insecure attachment have tried other healing modalities, like psychotherapy and mindfulness meditation, with disappointing results.
In this course, you will be equipped with the knowledge and meditation practices to specifically help you build the core foundation of solid mental health (secure attachment).

Format

  • 8 Week Course: One live 90 minute class per week
  • Live online sessions: The live sessions will be hosted on Zoom. An email with the zoom links will be sent to you after you have registered.
  • Q&A: There will be opportunity to ask questions during the Q&A section.

Attendance & Recordings

  • View at your own pace: The event will be recorded and sent out to registered participants for viewing on your own schedule.
  • Partial attendance is fine - however you get best results if you attend all sessions.
  • Late Starts: You can join even after it has started, and you will get access to all the recordings.

Event Date & Time

Start Date: 02 August - End Date: 27 September 2021

This course will run twice in order to be accessible to people in different time zones. The content is exactly the same. You will get the access details for both after signing up.

There will be one live 90 minute class per week.

Class Schedule

This is the approximate format of each class.

DurationActivity
5 mins 5 mins of meditation to settle the mind.
5 mins Review of last week’s class (first class will be introductions instead)
35 mins Lecture on new material
5 mins Break
40 mins Guided meditation related to material just discussed
30 mins Depending on time, there can be an optional thirty minutes extra Q&A after the 90 minute class ends for those who want to stay on.

Course Overview

 In this course we will cover

  • the basics of attachment theory
  • how it forms an important foundation of adult mental health
  • how attachment conditioning is make up of attachment schemas which together form an “internal working model of attachment” (Bowlby)
    • we will repattern and work through these attachment schemas systematically
  • how insecure attachment usually implies deficits in mentalization capacities (meta-cognitive, perspective taking abilities)
    • which we start correcting in the guided meditation
  • how to heal our early attachment conditioning in order to have much improved well-being, better romantic and platonic relationships, and a stronger, healthy sense of self.

This is a Practice oriented course.

Doing the work (meditations in this case) is what brings about the results. The learning content of the course is intended to guide and encourage the meditation practice which will bring about the desired healing.

Why is focusing on Attachment Repair especially relevant to people who have struggled with other healing modalities?

  • Attachment conditioning sets the foundation for much of psychological development thereafter.  The foundation must be healthy before further work is fruitful.
  • Attachment conditioning happens between 6 and 20 months of age: very early before there is much narrative or cognitive functioning. 
  • For this reason doing work at a later developmental level (cognitive/narrative approaches to healing (CBT etc)) is not as effective without a solid base.  Healing attachment conditioning should come first.  Then other healing modalities (talk therapy, mindfulness meditation, etc) can have their desired effects when built on the foundation of secure attachment conditioning.
  • In order to fix attachment conditioning we must have lived, emotionally corrective experiences
  • This is the core focus on this course: Having Emotionally Corrective Experiences that open up new possibilities for greater happiness and ease, better relationships, and more self-efficacy.


What is the primary practice/healing modality in this course?

We’ll focus on ‘Schema Repatterning Meditation’ (SRM). SRM is a guided visualization in which we:

  • first identify our problematic, negative schemas (emotional learnings/beliefs) and modes (problematic, symptom producing behaviors that result from the schemas/beliefs)
  • investigate these beliefs with interest and openness, bringing them fully into awareness using sentence stem completion exercises (based on Bruce Ecker’s work)
  • discover their origins in childhood, adolescence, and earlier adulthood seeing how these negative learnings were helpful and adaptive at the time, but now no longer adaptive to our adult live
  • have a calibrated and attuned emotionally corrective experience in the guided meditation that juxtaposes the old negative learning (consistent with Bruce Ecker’s Coherence Therapy)
  • all along the way, the meditation guidance helps us develop our meta-cognitive capacities, correcting executive function deficits that often accompany insecure attachment.

This lived corrective experience opens up new possibilities freeing up the narrow, fixed views of our old way of seeing ourselves and the world (schemas) thereby making our ‘symptoms’ unnecessary. These changes are permanent without need for continuing maintenance work.

Drawing from the insights of modern neuroscience, SRM gets right to the root causes of unwanted behaviors by reconsolidating the emotional memories (Ecker et al., 2012).  Moreover, the practice is gentle and non-pathologizing.

This course and the guided SRM meditation draws from:

  • Attachment Theory
  • Jeffrey Young’s Schema Therapy
  • Bruce Ecker’s Coherence Therapy
  • The Work of Byron Katie
  • Shirley Jean Schmidt’s Developmental Needs Meeting strategy
  • Laurel Parnell’s Attachment-Focused EMDR
  • Dan Brown and David Elliott’s Ideal Parent Figure Protocol/Three Pillars Model
  • Mentalization/Meta-Cogntive therapies (Fonagy, DiMaggio, Liotti)
  • Buddhist Visualization Meditation
  • Buddhist Heart Practices:
    • Loving Kindness
    • Compassion
    • Appreciative Joy
    • Equanimity (Equanimous Love)

Course format:

The course is broken up into 8 classes with each class focused on guided meditation. See below for details.

Week 1 Using meditation to heal attachment conditioning

Attachment Theory & Attachment Repair

  • Intro
  • What is attachment theory
    • How & when is attachment conditioning learned
    • What is the Internal Working Model of Attachment
    • How attachment conditioning is the core of your mental health
    • Internal Working Model of Attachment
    • The value of attachment
  • Emotional learnings or felt-beliefs (schemas)
    • What are they
    • How do they form
    • How do the schemas and resultant schema-mode comprise our attachment style
    • How to bring them into awareness them (sentence stems) (Ecker et al, 2012)
    • How do we use Schema Repatterning Meditation to heal them by having an emotionally corrective experience that dis-confirms the old, negative schema
  • Schema Repatterning Meditation (SRM)
    • What it is
    • How to use it
    • How and why it heals
    • Emotionally corrective experiences (dis-confirming knowledge)
      • Role of the ‘responsive other’ to dis-confirm toxic belief
        • Compassion
          • Attunement as dis-confirming of the negative schema
        • Sympathetic joy
        • Unconditional positive regard (equanimous love)
    • Difference between transformational change and counteractive change
  • Elements of emotionally correct experiences
    • Compassion
    • sympathetic joy
    • emotional expereince that disconfirms the negative felt-belief
  • Attachment repair:
    • How long does it take?
    • How much work is necessary?
    • Is it worth it?
  • Primer on the four major attachment styles
  • Guided meditation to establishing resources (resource parents, or other figures that soothe, support, and help to disconfirm negative expectations of schemas)
  • Homework assignment (optional) (usually consists of listening to the guided meditation 30 mins as between one and 6 times during the week, as you have time, and also doing “micro-hit” of the SRM meditation in stressful situations as a means of emotional regulation)

Week 2 Going deeper on the four primary attachment styles

  • Attachment Types:
    • Secure attachment vs Insecure attachment
    • Dismissing attachment
    • Preoccupied attachment
    • Disorganized attachment
  • How is adult attachment assessed?
    • AAI
    • assessing attachment pre and post treatment
  • What does the path to earned security look like?
    • How long to expect
    • How much work
    • Examples of others who’ve done it
  • Dealing with ‘resistance’ and other difficulties:
    • resistance is our friend and guide not our enemy
    • resistance points us to the most fruitful schemas to focus on
  • Guided SRM Meditation on the Schema of Emotional Deprivation
  • Homework assignment

Week 3 Mentalizing the Modes (Understanding our “Parts”)

  • Introduction to the “Early Maladaptive Schemas” and “Schema Modes” (self-parts)
  • Overview of Mentalization (meta-cognition) (Liotti, DiMaggio) (Steele, Steele, Fonagy)
    • Understanding your own and others mental states as mental states
    • Proper discounting of indeterminacy of mental states
      • mental states as a ‘guesstimate’
    • Understanding causal relationships between mental states
    • Ability to take skillful postures towards mental states in order to bring about emotional regulation
    • Meaning Making
    • Recognition of developmental aspects like how past experiences present experiences
    • How to make reasonable and accurate mental attributions to others
    • Planning in the face of limited informal
    • Understanding the impact of context on decision making
    • Foster the ability to view things from the other’s perspective
    • Recognition of interdependence
    • Developing a sense of purpose greater than self
  • How Mentalization abilities correlate with attachment conditioning
  • Guided Mentalizing the Modes Meditation
  • Homework assignment

Week 4 Going deeper with the Modes and Meta-Cognition

  • Forgiveness Meditation with emphasis on perspective taking (Meta-cognition)
  • Going Deeper with Meta-Cognition
  • Further investigating the modes/parts from a schema therapy perspective like (Young et al., 2006):
    • Demanding internalized parent voices
    • Overcompensation modes like “workaholic mode”, or “self-aggrandizer mode”
    • Avoidance detached modes like the “detached self-soother” and the “spaced out fantasy mode”
    • Compliant surrender mode
    • Vulnerable child mode (which we reparent with the SRM)
    • Healthy Adult mode (which results out of the vulnerable child getting their needs met)
  • How schemas (beliefs) and the schema modes (behaviors) feedback and interrelate
  • Guided Mentalizing the Modes Meditation
  • Homework assignment

Week 5 Dismissing (Avoidant) Attachment

  • Further description of dismissing attachment in adults
  • Causes of dismissing attachment
    • rejection of attachment needs
  • Strengths and weaknesses and remedies of dismissing attachment
    • Turning on the attachment mechanism
    • Dealing with shame and rejection
    • General Mentalization exercises
      • Opening up to feelings
    • Exploration behaviors they are 80% well developed – focus on collaborative sharing
    • importance of seeing ineffectively substituting exploration for attachment needs.
  • How to treat dismissing attachment
    • encouraging to turn on the attachment mechanism
    • support for vulnerable expression through corrective emotional experiences that SHOW that it is ok to have needs
    • experience attentive attunement
  • Schemas, coping modes, and schema modes associated with dismissing attachment.
  • SRM guided the Schema of Shame and Defectiveness
  • Homework assignment

Week 6 Preoccupied (Anxious) Attachment

  • Further description of preoccupied attachment in adults
  • Origins of preoccupation
    • role-reversal – involvement in the mental states of the parent.
    • parental distractedness
    • a form of rejection: your authentic, child presentation self wasn’t actually received. Instead you learned that you could get your needs met if you tended however you did learn the painful lesson that
  • How to treat preoccupied attachment
    • building confidence in self and ability to explore
    • show how there is not reason to feel guilt about having needs
    • give permission to stop compulsive caretaking all for personal needs to be met
    • experience full attention of caregivers
  • Schemas, coping modes, and schema modes that correlate with preoccupied attachment.
  • The false self and self-development
  • Guided SRM Meditation on abandonment and self-development
  • Homework assignment

Week 7 Disorganized (Fearful) attachment

  • Further description of disorganized attachment in adults
  • Origins of disorganized attachment
    • fearful experiences with the caregiver
  • How to treat disorganized attachment
    • emphasize safety and trust
    • experience attunement and consoling
  • Fearfully preoccupied
  • Fearfully avoidant
  • Cannot Classify
  • Guided SRM Meditation on Schema of Abuse and Mistrust
  • Homework assignment

Week 8 Forgiveness and Wrap Up

  • Importance of forgiveness
  • Life purpose
  • Guided SRM meditation with emphasis on exploration and cooperation
  • Wrap Up
    • Review
    • Support for healing attachment conditioning
    • Guided forgiveness meditation

Miscellaneous Notes

The course is cohort-based and interactive. We have a slack group where you will be able to discuss, share experiences and consolidate what you are learning.

There will be time for Q&A and spot coaching.

We will be doing deep work. For that reason please feel free to take a break at any point.

Who is this for?

This program is for those of us who...

  • Have insecure attachment 
  • Are looking to improve our psychological health, especially if you have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results
  • Have problems with emotional independence, exploration and sense of self (enmeshment)
  • Have troubles with expressing vulnerability
  • Difficulties with intimate relationships
  • Want to optimise their psychological health
  • Want to understand the early foundations of their psychological development
  • Have had trouble consolidating gains in meditation practice in spite of lots of dedicated meditation practice
  • Have difficulties with emotional regulation

Healing Together

Shared interest and social support can make meditation practice, study, and healing much easier.  Make friends in the course on the slack channel and invite friends who you think could benefit to participate in the course.

Benefits

These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program

Theoretical Understanding

  • A basic understanding of attachment theory.
  • The importance of attachment repair and how to start doing it
  • The importance of your personal explorations as a source for meaning in your life and more clarity on how to proceed in life towards those explorations and goals.
  • Understanding of how insecure attachment forms an important foundation of adult mental health
  • A plan for attaining secure attachment
  • More understanding of the modes/parts from a schema therapy perspective like:
    • Demanding internalized parent voices
    • Overcompensation modes like “workaholic mode”, or “self-aggrandizer mode”
    • Avoidance detached modes like the “detached self-soother” and the “spaced out fantasy mode”
    • Compliant surrender mode
    • Vulnerable child mode (which we reparent with the SRM)
    • Healthy Adult mode (which results out of the vulnerable child getting its needs met)

Psychological

  • A better ability to observe your mind with meta-cognitive awareness as a result of the mentalization exercises peppered through the guided meditations.
  • Better able to do emotional regulation on the spot in your daily life with ‘micro-hits’ of meditation
  • Less blame of self or others
  • Greater understanding and compassion for psychological problems and vulnerabilities that affect you and others.
  • Less identification with your psychological maladies and quirks (ego-dystonia with your maladaptive schemas).
  • A better ability to observe your mind with meta-cognitive awareness as a result of the mentalization exercises peppered through the guided meditations.
  • A very effective way to do emotional regulation on the spot in your daily life with ‘micro-hits’ of the SRM meditation
  • Understanding of and compassion towards your parts/modes and needs.
  • A more coherent and realistic understanding of the role your childhood experiences had in producing your adult personality.

For your relationships

  • Understanding of how attachment conditioning unconsciously drives your relationship behaviors
  • And how to remedy them.
  • Greater valuing of attachment itself.
  • Better understand of relationship dynamics
  • Less social anxiety
  • Greater ability and permission to be vulnerable and admit wanting closeness (dismissing/disorganized)

Support Structure

  • A sense of camaraderie as a result of seeing how our psychological difficulties are rooted in common experiences that affect us all.
  • Weekly attachment repair meditation that will start moving you towards secure attachment conditioning.
  • Opportunities to find accountability partners to meditate with during the week.
  • A sense of camaraderie as a result of seeing how our psychological difficulties are rooted in common experiences that affect us all.
  • A Slack group to continue discussion during the week.
  • Extra guided meditation session on Friday mornings at 8am Eastern Time (bonus)
  • Attachment related book club meetings on Friday mornings at 9am Eastern Time (bonus)

 

“The slack group enhanced the experience and learning for me, maybe quadrupled the benefits I got. Reading and learning about other people’s experiences and also how you spent the time answering questions to help people with their practice” — Michelle

Frequently Asked Questions

About participation

Who is this course for?

This course is for anyone who has tried other healing or therapeutic modalities with unsatisfactory results. For such people, the likely cause is an underlying attachment disorder that traditional therapies don’t have access to.

It is also for anybody who experiences recurring problems or triggers in their relationships that seem to stem from childhood or their subconscious and wants to address these issues at their root.

Mostly, it is for people who are motivated and have a practitioner’s mindset – a willingness to practice and do the meditations on your own.

Are there any prerequisites to attend?

No, this course is open to anyone, regardless of your familiarity with attachment theory or prior meditation experience.

Is there homework?

Yes, there is homework every week.

Optimally you should listen to the meditation recordings (30 min) daily or every other day. However, while it is optimal for you to do it, the value of coming to class and doing meditation in class does not rely on you having done the homework.

How many students are in a class?

It is difficult to estimate as every cohort is different and every class can vary greatly. However, we typically have about 50 students showing up to the live sessions.

What should I do if I sign up for the course late?

Signing up late is perfectly fine! Because the course is practice-oriented, you should catch up by doing the practices in your own time. The recordings of the sessions you were not able to attend will be made available to you. You will be able to catch up on the material and do the meditations in your own time.

Moreover, we run this course multiple times every year – you can sign up for our newsletter and get notified when the next 8-week course will be launching.

Is the course compatible with therapy/counselling/psychotherapy?

Yes, in fact, we highly encouraged you to do both. Check out our Disclaimer for more information on why seeking professional advice alongside our course is optimal.

I am not sure I can commit to following an 8-week long course. What should I do?

All recordings are made available to you every week. It allows you to watch the recordings at home and do the meditations in your own time. While the course has been designed to last 8-weeks, you can undergo it in less time. However, not attending the live sessions will take away from the experience and due to the triggering and complex nature of the emotions and experiences that might come up during the course, we recommend going at a slower pace.

If committing for 8-weeks is too big of a problem, we also offer shorter workshops and retreats (usually half a day or a day-long).

Moreover, we also offer an hour-long SRM session every Friday. It is free and open to anybody. And we have a weekly online book club where we discuss attachment theory, which can help get you up and running.

Technical Questions

How do I access the course?

Once you sign up, an email will be sent out to you with a zoom link. It will allow you to access the live classes. You can add the zoom to your google calendar to be reminded.

A password will be shared with you in order to access the recordings from previous classes.

How long do I have access to the course?

The recordings will be available to you for 70 days (duration of the course + 2 weeks).

In what format are the recordings?

The recordings will be made available as video and also as audio-only.

My payment didn’t go through. What should I do?

If you are experiencing troubles with your payment, contact us. We will get back to you as soon as we can.

What is the refund policy?

If for any reason you aren’t satisfied, simply contact us and we will send you a full refund.

I have technical issues accessing the course or recording. What should I do?

If you are experiencing any technical issues relating to accessing the material or live sessions, please get in touch with us. We will get back to you as soon as possible.

Who should I contact if I have further questions?

We can be reached with our online contact form.

Testimonials

This is what participants of prior Courses have to say:

Anastasia Chebotaryova

I want to say thank you for giving this opportunity and I recommend this course because of the huge impact it is making on my well-being.

It is easier to self-regulate emotionally and I have a deeper understanding of attachment and compassion and it’s place and impact in life.

Stu

I’m knowing myself better which allows me to connect in a more authentic way. I am also recognizing the attachment styles better in people I interact with and hammering out what I am really seeking in a relationship.

I didn’t realize how important unconditional exploration and expression was for me until this class.

Jonny

I love your offerings. Keep them coming. You have a good capacity to make people feel seen – and also show great respect for us as individuals – in itself that is an healing factor in being in courses of yours! Your humbleness and humour – make every call a killer. Rock on.

I like learning about these subjects! Feels very helpful in understanding my problems/reason to part of my suffering. I feel I have grown during the course so far – and or moving in a better direction.

Chelsea

I gained an ability to self soothe, meet my needs for validation and feeling seen/heard (which were often unmet in childhood), an overall feeling like I am less alone in my work of healing my attachment.

I realize I benefit greatly from an 8 week course with a weekly meeting, I am able to do daily visualisation meditations on my own and feel supported in this routine with the weekly meetings.

I feel I am actively and consistently working on my attachment repair by being part of a longer course (as opposed to a weekend workshop).

N.P.

Loved the course and loved this kind of emotional work. Look forward to doing more that you offer.

Content was excellent. Meditation around Schema modes went quite deep and uncovered difficult emotions. Doing micro hits has improved some situations that would have gone worse.

Allison

THANK YOU!! this is powerful for me, so thank you thank you for sharing your insight.

I like how you really balance the “just do the work” attitude with sooo much compassion and empathy for how hard it is.

Now I know how to use the immense power of my imagination to heal my most fundamental body-mind-soul mechanisms and have a more joyful, loving life.

Registration

This event is offered on a sliding scale to be accessible to anyone.
Please feel free to share with anyone who you think might benefit.

Tier 4

$400 ($50 per class)

I have enough resources and would like to support others.

Tier 3

$200 ($25 per class)

I have sufficient resources.

Tier 2

$80 ($10 per class)

I have some resources.

Tier 1

$1

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Please note: This program is offered for educational purposes only and is not group-therapy, counselling or any kind of other psychotherapy, nor is it a substitute for the aforementioned. Cedric Reeves the instructor is a meditation teacher, not a psychotherapist, counsellor, or otherwise therapist.