• Date: Saturday, 22nd Jan 2022
  • Instructor: Cedric Reeves
  • Cost: Sliding scale

This half day meditation workshop 'couplet' focuses on repairing early attachment conditioning through a series of guided meditations along with relevant psycho-education. It’s aimed at people who are looking to improve their psychological health.

The morning workshop will be focused on dismissing attachment with these Schemas covered in the meditation:
Emotional Deprivation
Defectiveness & Shame
Social Isolation & Alienation

The afternoon workshop will be focused on the core schemas of preoccupied and disorganized attachment:
Abandonment & Instability
Mistrust & Abuse
Emotional Deprivation (repeated)

Who is this for?

  • For anyone who wants to go from insecure to secure attachment.
  • Suitable for anyone new to attachment-work, or is already experienced.
  • People with Insecure Attachment.
  • For anyone who is willing to do the work to get results

Event Date & Time

This workshop will run twice in order to be accessible to people in different time zones. The content is exactly the same. You will get the access details for both after signing up.

22nd Jan 2022

workshop Schedule

There will be 3 sessions of 60 minutes each, for 5 hours total.

Each session is like this:

Duration Activity
10 mins Lecture
40 mins Guided Meditation
5 mins Q&A

We will be doing deep work. For that reason please feel free to take a break at any point.

workshop Overview

This program is suitable for beginners to meditation and healing work.

This program focuses on repairing early attachment conditioning through a series of guided meditations along with relevant psycho-education.

Attachment Theory describes one of the earliest phases of our psychological development. It describes the behaviours of the infant from ages 6 months to 3 years when it ventures away from the caregiver to explore and then goes back to seek safety, affection, and care from the ‘secure base’.

Attachment conditioning is foundational to our psychological health. When our foundational attachment conditioning is insecure then we experience developmental problems with our exploratory abilities, self-development, emotional self-regulation and relationships with others.

The structure is set up such to help us heal common aspects of disordered attachment conditioning. There will be three guided meditation sessions in each of the two sessions (morning and evening) focused on the first five of Jeffery Young’s 18 schemas. These five schemas all relate back directly to attachment conditioning.

According to Jeffery Young “An early maladaptive schema is a pervasive self-defeating or dysfunctional theme or pattern of memories, emotions, and physical sensations, developed during childhood or adolescence and elaborated throughout one’s lifetime, that often has the form of a belief about the self or the world.” Jeffrey Young also calls the schemas “life traps”.

Details about modalities

Research into Schema Therapy indicates it is effective at treating grave psychological disorders like complex PTSD, personality disorders, treatment resistant depression and anxiety, and substance abuse issues.

To this point, schema therapy was developed by Jeffrey Young in response to seeing how traditional Beckian Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) did not yield satisfactory results for patients with more serious disturbances like personality disorders.

Ideal Parent Figure Protocol, developed by Dan Brown, has been found to be effective for moving people with insecure attachment to secure attachment after repeated sessions.

Said differently, the techniques and frame works used in this program are very effective even for difficult cases.

Schemas, Psycho-Education and Guided Meditations

Schemas

We will do psycho-education and reparative meditations on each the following schemas:1

  • Defectiveness & Shame (dismissing schema)
  • Social Isolation (dismissing schema)
  • Emotional Deprivation (schema common to all types of insecure attachment)
  • Abandonment & Instability (preoccupied schema)
  • Mistrust & Abuse (disorganized schema)

Moreover we’ll investigate how each of these schemas manifest as behaviors (schema modes); particularly the coping modes of surrender, avoidance, and overcompensation.  Then we’ll regress back to the vulnerable child mode and feel into the schema, studying how it was brought about through difficult childhood experiences.  Then we’ll reparent the vulnerable child around those difficult experiences.

Psycho-Education

We will start with a brief lecture on attachment theory, attachment repair, and Schema Therapy. Then, before each Schema oriented meditation guidance, we will do a brief psycho-education on that particular schema drawing both from Jeffrey Young’s Schema Theory and Attachment Theory.

Guided Meditations

Guided meditation will be the primary means for working through the schemas. We will be taking an attachment theory based re-parenting approach in the guided meditation. These meditations will give us corrective emotional experiences. The “perfect nurturers” will reparent our inner, vulnerable child in the meditation. These meditations will help us remap the ‘internal working model of attachment’.

We will apply each of these meditations to each the five schemas listed above:

  • Schema Repatterning Meditation, a meditation in which our “perfect nurturers” reparent our inner, vulnerable child.
  • Tong Len, a Tibetan Buddhist compassion meditation. This will help us cultivate compassion generally and also particularly around the schema in question. Moreover, by considering how others suffer with the same schemas we will see how we are not alone in our difficulties. This helps to normalize the painful experience of the schemas. Moreover, compassion around our shared difficulties further builds solidarity and a sense connection with others.
  • Positive Opposite (credit to Dan Brown) meditation will open up our imagination to see how we can move past our schema “life traps” and open up to the positive opposite of our schemas. Thereby we see new and better possibilities for our lives. That helps us actually change the behaviors towards the positive;
  • Mentalization exercises. Mentalization, also known as metacognition is the ability to reflect on your own and others’ mental states. This helps us understand the motivations that drive behavior. Weak mentalization abilities are correlated with poorer functioning in life, and psychological disorders like personality disorders, depression, anxiety disorders, and substance abuse disorder. Strong mentalization is a hallmark of robust mental health. Understanding your own and others mental states helps to develop confidence in making sense out of the world and your experience of it. All the guided meditations will be peppered with instructions that encourage looking back at one’s own mind state and the mind states of others. This will improve our mentalization abilities.

Miscellaneous Notes

There will be time for Q&A and spot coaching.

We will be doing deep work. For that reason please feel free to take a break at any point.

Who is this for?

This program is for those of us who...

  • Are looking to improve our psychological health, especially if you have tried other healing modalities with disappointing results
  • Want to let go of old grudges
  • Difficulties with intimate relationships
  • Have difficulties with emotional regulation

Healing Together

Shared interest and social support can make meditation practice, study, and healing much easier.

Make friends in the course on the slack channel and invite friends who you think could benefit to participate in the course.

Benefits

These are some of the benefits you will have by the end of the program

Theoretical Understanding

  • The importance of forgiveness and how to cultivate it
  • Understanding of how insecure attachment forms an important foundation of adult mental health

Psychological

  • A better ability to observe your mind with metacognitive awareness as a result of the mentalization exercises peppered through the guided meditations
  • Better able to use forgiveness as an antidote to negative mental states (anger, holding grudges etc)
  • Less blame of self or others

For your relationships

  • More forgiveness = easier relationships that repair more quickly after the inevitable ruptures that occur

Support Structure

  • A sense of camaraderie as a result of seeing how our psychological difficulties are rooted in common experiences that affect us all
  • A Slack group to continue discussion going forward

Frequently Asked Questions

About Participation

Once you sign up, an email will be sent out to you with a Zoom link. It will allow you to access the live classes. A free Zoom account is necessary, and Zoom needs to be installed on your computer before the event starts.
No, this course is open to anyone, regardless of your familiarity with attachment theory or prior meditation experience.
Yes, and in fact we highly encouraged you to do both.

Payment Questions

If for any reason you aren’t satisfied, simply contact us and we will send you a full refund.
If you are experiencing troubles with your payment, simply contact us and we will get back to you as soon as we can.
There are other payment methods listed on our donations page. Otherwise contact us for other options. If you lack any ability to make online payments, let us know and we can sign you up for free.

Technical Questions

The recordings will be available for two more months after the course ends.
The recordings will be made available as video and also as audio-only.

If you are experiencing any technical issues relating to accessing the material or live sessions, please get in touch with us. We will get back to you as soon as possible.

We can be reached with our online contact form.

Testimonials

This is what participants of prior workshops have to say:

Dani

Thank you for continuing to make these classes. When I am able to attend, they make a really positive contribution to my mental health :)

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Please note: This program is offered for educational purposes only and is not group-therapy, counselling or any kind of other psychotherapy, nor is it a substitute for the aforementioned. The instructor Cedric Reeves is a meditation teacher, not a psychotherapist, counsellor, or otherwise therapist.